June 17, 2005

A Poll for the Men-folk

This is a question to my male readers.

This is from Katie Holmes with regard to her new fiancée, the eccentric and creepy Tom Cruise, for whom she is embracing his incredibly whacked out religion of the Church of Scientology.

Pay attention carefully, gentlemen, before you answer this question. I have read that the lovely young, impressionable and weak minded Katie has been heard to say that… she grew up wanting to marry him.

Heh. I wish I could say it was because they were the same age and grew up as playmates and she just always thought she wanted to marry him. But, alas, ‘tis not the case as he is 20 years older than she.

OK… this is what I want to know man-friends. Could you see yourself wanting to marry someone who said she grew up wanting to marry you?

Blech. There is something so very wrong with that. Makes me want to vomit. The girl needs a lobotomy.

Posted by Boudicca at June 17, 2005 08:42 PM

Oh man am I taking the 5th on this one...

Posted by: spurs at June 17, 2005 08:53 PM

Could this be our "He said, She Said"?

Posted by: spurs at June 17, 2005 08:58 PM

If she really said that, she probably hasn't grown up yet.

Posted by: TGOO at June 17, 2005 09:05 PM


Spurs... it could be... but I'm wanting to see what our men folk say. You could be the only one wanting to marry a girl 20 years younger than you saying, "Oh! I grew up wanting to marry you!"

Posted by: Bou at June 17, 2005 09:15 PM

I didn't say that I would like to marry someone 20 years my junior. I could however argue for the defense. :o)~

Posted by: spurs at June 17, 2005 09:24 PM


I'd have to go with a "who's at what age" kind of thing.

If I'm 38 and she's 18-- the answer is no

48 vs. 28 -- maybe, depends on how long I've known her personally, and where she is in cognitive development

58 - 38 yes, provided the above, but not to the same degree as above.

Posted by: Aris_Ravencroft at June 18, 2005 12:17 AM

Even just dating someone more than 10 years younger than me is unappealing.

Posted by: Jack at June 18, 2005 03:34 AM

ummm, I'm married so I don't think about things like that now, so I channeled "college days Contagion" and he said that if he was forty five and single and there was a 25 year old hottie that he respected and felt a connection to, yes he would marry them.

Now on the flip side with Tom Cruise, this is a Hollyweird marrage, it's not going to last. They use marrage for serial monogamy. When they get bored with their partner they divorce and find another.

Posted by: Contagion at June 18, 2005 08:35 AM

I should probably take the 5th too (single malt, please), but will say that it depends. The physical age difference is not the issue for me, but rather the mental/emotional age difference. Someone my age or older who is immature: no. Someone younger or older than me that is mature: yes. For me, that tends to apply to both marriage consideration and even for recreational fun. Or at least long-term recreational fun -- have to leave myself a little wriggle room there. Then again, I have on my to do list to be shot at 200-plus years-of-age by the outraged father of a 16-year-old...

Posted by: Laughing Wolf at June 18, 2005 09:05 AM

Yes, it sounds creepy out of context, but as long as she made me happy and we matched well... sure.

Posted by: Harvey at June 18, 2005 10:09 AM

Guys... you're kinda missing the point. The point is not the age. The point is the maturity level. Would you marry someone who was so giddy they said, "I dreamed of marrying him while growing up?"

Doesn't that sound absurdly immature?

Posted by: Bou at June 18, 2005 10:40 AM

(Speaking in a LOW voice, so I can post on this one)

First of all I tried to post on this last night and it blocked me, even though I thought it was pretty clean. I will try again.

Tom Cruise....ick creepy. You are right on there.

My husband is just in love with Katie Holmes....weird.....*rolling eyes*

Almost every man I know who has married a second wife, she is 10-15 years younger than wife #1.

"The Cheater" I had posted on from the Cheater Cheater post. He is 36, she is 20....While most women I know find this unappealing, and almost gross.

It cements in my head that men do not ALWAYS care about the WHOLE package.

If she is hotter than his current thing she can be a little dim.

Hats off to the men, like TGOO, Jack......

Men also love women "acting interested" and "swooning" types........

*rolling eyes*

*and darting all of the tomatoes*

Posted by: ArmyWifeToddlerMom at June 18, 2005 11:34 AM

Heh...Don't we all say silly things when we're in "love".

Posted by: spurs at June 18, 2005 12:44 PM

Seriously, if she said that about me, you know right away... drug problem, or lobotomy.

Seriouserly, to have someone say that just screams "run away!" As TGOO said, it just shows that she hasn't grown up yet.

However, if this was Jennifer Anniston, or Selma Hayek, I was twenty years older, and they said it... well, I think I could deal with it. ;)

Posted by: Some Other Guy at June 18, 2005 01:58 PM

Wrong guy. Oops.

Posted by: That 1 Guy at June 18, 2005 01:59 PM

I officially say: Ick.

If some youngin' (assuming I was much older, since someone 20 years my junior would now be 14 years old- ick squared) said she grew up wanting to marry me, my psycho alert klaxon would be blaring at 200+ decibles.

In full honesty, if I was a single 45 year old celeb and a smokin' hot 25 year old who was infatuated with me threw herself at my crotch, I'd probably end up boinkin' her.

But marriage? Hell no.

What you guys are understating with that arsepimple Cruise is that he's a damn cultist. He's suckered Katie Holmes into a money grubbing, brainwashing cult that will forever have her in it's clutches. His $cientology recruiting already makes him a manipulative bastard three orders of magnitude beyond the whole "Older man robbing the cradle" thing.

For those of you unfamiliar with the basis of Scientology, a full rundown of what the Hubbard worshipping bastards don't advertise is Here.

You know, if they started a cult around a good Sci-Fi writer like Frank Herbert, or Issac Asimov I would probably cut them some slack (especially since they would have come up with a better bullshit backstory than "Xenu" and "Thetan auditing"), but Hubbard?!? Sweet Jeebus that guy sucked.

Posted by: Graumagus at June 18, 2005 03:00 PM

Are you saying Han Solo can't marry me? Damn!

Posted by: Sally at June 18, 2005 04:01 PM

Star wars cast are exempt :)

I'm still trying to find a mail-order bride place that can get me a green-skinned hottie Twi'lek.

I dig chicks with Lekku....

Posted by: Graumagus at June 19, 2005 12:01 AM

Hrmm I hate to say this but I dated a girl for a year who was 26 when i was 15....but ...I didn't marry her.
But yea...someone who says they grew up wanting to marry someone is well...deranged? No thats not it.....Twisted? No thats not it either.....Sick? Hrmm getting warmer. Oh to hell with it. Let me go read my Sybil novel again and I'll come up with it.

Meanwhile I think most of the guys are looking at Tom giving the wink and the thumb going "Way to go Tommy Wish I was 50 with a 18 year old".....of course I could be wrong on this but 90% of the guys I know are in that boat.

Me included if forced to admit so ;p

Posted by: BloodSpite at June 19, 2005 12:53 AM

I agree that if she said that, she's pretty immature. If I were single and started dating a girl 20 years younger, I can't see that we would have much in common. She wouldn't remember a lot of things that were pretty important in my life and wouldn't be able to relate to a lot of my experiences. I guess the thought of having a 20 something year old girlfriend would be pretty cool, but how long could it last? Okay, you talked me into it - let's give it the old college try.

Posted by: Dash at June 19, 2005 12:55 AM

... marriages are about sharing.. and being mates... a marriage that starts out with one party looking to the other as a God/Hero/Idol is bound to fail...

Posted by: Eric at June 19, 2005 09:37 AM

I was 25 and dated a guy who was 45. Was fine for a while, as we both had some common ground. However, that small common ground over a few months was not enough to sustain. I eventually broke it off with him because I realized there was just too much of a generational gap there.

Please note: I (the female) broke it off. He appeared to still be perfectly content!

Posted by: TNT at June 19, 2005 10:06 AM