August 11, 2005

Boys Will Be Boys

We have a pool about 10 minutes away from us that I take the kids to. (Slathered in sun screen I might add and we only go to the beach after 5PM!) I’ve been taking the kids swimming at night to try and burn off excess energy. They carry on for a couple hours and I read… or print out one of those Sudoku and work one by the pool. (The easy ones I have down to nothing flat. I have a Medium one kicking my butt...)

I cannot believe the games these boys come up with. Half the time, I’ll be reading and listening… as they create all these scenarios. I know I had to be like that as a child. Where did my imagination go? When did it become wrong to play like that? Maybe that’s what I like about having kids… I can play legos, wrap a train track around the house, and play Uno, indefinitely. I’m a parent. You play with your kids.

When I had my first boy, I was inundated with all this stuff from parenting magazines and the media about toy guns and toy weapons and how you shouldn’t have them in your home. I had friends whose kids weren’t even allowed to have squirt guns. Although I did say there would be no toy guns/weapons, short lived by the way, I never took it to the extent of the squirt guns.

When did my attitude change? When I was quilting one night and my 4 year old took all my quilting pieces and taped them together and created a Bazooka 9 Thousand machine gun, none of which made sense to anyone but him. But, he had created a monster gun, out of fabric.

It’s a boy thing, folks, plain and simple. After that, I decided ‘Screw it’. We had toy guns when I was a kid, they’ll be fine. Come into my home now and I have plastic swords of every shape and size, toy guns and rifles, and every color light saber the toy industry ever made.

Today at the pool, they made up their games. There was the obligatory fart game. Rules for that game seem to change. I try to not pay attention to that game. Then there’s the Florida version of sharks and minnows called Sharks and People. No kidding. And then, I get the kid standing on the edge of the pool, another kid standing in the pool takes his thumb and forefinger and pretends to shoot the kid on the edge. The kid on the edge then grabs his chest and falls into the pool. A perfect death scene in their eyes.

I wonder what people think. I’m sure the Mothers of the small children we occasionally see are horrified. Obviously they either have girls or they just aren’t there yet.

But there is this one German couple I see frequently, sitting across from the pool. The other day, I thought I saw him laughing at my boys. Today I was sure of it. Women typically look at my boys’ antics and think, “Holy crap she’s busy.” The men… it appears they remember their childhoods. They always seem amused.

Posted by Boudicca at August 11, 2005 08:52 PM | TrackBack

Oh joy (said with sarcasm)... my 3 year old already plays fart games... now it will be in the pool as well? *** sigh ***

Posted by: vw bug at August 11, 2005 09:06 PM

If you have the opportunity to do so, teach them about the real things. Kids who learn about guns and gun safty early in life fully understand what a gun is and the damage it can cause.Most boys, and girls for that matter, of my generation learned gun safty and to shoot very early in life.We undertand that a gun is a tool, just as is a knife and it is a dangerous tool when misused. The anti-gun people don't seem to understand this. Instead of banning guns children should be taught about guns and how to use them. There would be a lot less problems with guns if this was the case. But then, thats just an ole rednecks opinions and you know about opinions and how they smell...

Posted by: GUYK at August 11, 2005 09:19 PM

Guy- We intend to. My husband has a concealed weapons permit and he's going to be taking me shooting. Peter over at Shakey Pete's Shootin' Shack (My blog bro) has given me a lot of advice on this and I have definitely listened... to both of you.

Posted by: Bou at August 11, 2005 09:25 PM

My girls picked up the guns and shooting games on their own also. They search for bad guys and ask us if we have seen them. So maybe it is not just a boy thing.

Posted by: Amy at August 11, 2005 09:46 PM

I hear that when they get to be teens, boys are easier than girls. Imagine being a mother of a girl going through puberty? I wouldn't have wanted to be my mother then!!

Boys now how to have fun... I always looked forward to playing with my boy cousins. We got to do things we didn't do with the girls & it was always a blast.

Posted by: Marie at August 11, 2005 10:28 PM

My boys have made guns out of bread and bologna. If you're looking for a good gun safety program, I've heard that the NRA Eddie the Eagle safety program is good. Guns are a fact of life in my house, and we all enjoy shooting, my 7-year has a single shot .22 Chipmunk rifle that is his pride and joy.

Posted by: annette at August 11, 2005 10:31 PM

Wait, wait, WHICH fart game was it they were playing?

Posted by: Ogre at August 12, 2005 11:17 AM

Sharks & people...LOL Stand back- I'm getting on my soapbox...

The problem today is that so many parents don't teach their children right & wrong; they expect schools to do it. Or TV. Honestly, if people would just raise their children instead of worrying about getting a raise at work the world would be a better place.

Stepping down now...

Posted by: Jody Halsted at August 12, 2005 01:57 PM

My two year old does a "root beer challenge" drinks it fast and sees how loud he can burp. We also have the gun games. My son loves power rangers (older cousing) and so I come around the corner to "SPD emergency! Bang, Bang mommy you're dead"

Posted by: Oddybobo at August 12, 2005 01:57 PM