April 02, 2006

Biting my Tongue... for Now.

We had to come in town from camping for the boys’ baseball game. When you have two boys on the same team, the thought of their forfeiting a game due to lack of players hangs over one’s head. Its one thing should they get sick… it’s a whole other issue that they aren’t there because ‘we’re camping’. So we made it back in for the game.

And I experienced for the first time what I had not yet seen in Little League ball, yet had heard tales.

I’m gonna be blunt folks. The other coach was a complete prick. I was appalled at his behavior. This is KIDS’ baseball… you’d think he was playing in the majors.

Now let me tell you about our coaches. I happen to know the guy who runs the Little League organization my boys’ play in. He knew my situation, that my kids had never played organized ball, so he MADE SURE my kids’ got on a team with good coaches, yet very low key. Our coaches are melllllllow. But good. They never make a kid feel bad about a play. Never.

And they ALWAYS cheer the other team when they make a good play. It’s not uncommon for an opposing player to make a great hit and to hear one of our coaches yell after the ball is finished being played, “That was a GREAT hit!” They’re just really supportive of all the kids… either team.

Their attitude is, “Let’s play some ball and by the way, its fun if we win, but no biggy.”

So this coach was such a prick, incredible, and finally our coaches had absolutely HAD IT. I mean they were DONE. Last inning, the coach is making a fool of himself and our coaches finally started to yell across at him, “You are really providing a real role model for your kids there coach. You must be so proud!”

The ump had to stop the game for everyone to take a breath. Our coaches chilled, their coach kept his mouth shut. For two hours our coaches took his crap and finally called him on it.

I heard later this is how he is. Baseball is SERIOUS stuff and he and his kids taunt other kids who don’t play as well. He has actually turned kids off to baseball. Nice, eh? I can't believe they let him coach. He must just walk that fine line.

So I decided I needed to find out who this coach was. I needed to keep his name on my ‘permanent sh** list’, because… I have one of those. And when you make that list, you never come off. It takes an act of God, really. As I am apt to say, “I rarely forgive, but I NEVER forget.” Ever.

It turns out I know this guy. When I heard his last name, I was stunned. Absolutely, stunned. I didn’t recognize him because I have a problem with faces and I’d only met him a couple times, but we run in the same circles. We have mutual friends.

I was so looking forward to one day meeting him and saying, “Oh I remember you. You’re that prick who coached in Little League baseball. I wasn’t impressed.” Oh and I have patience. I was prepared to do it in 30 years. Oh yes.

Don’t think for a minute I wouldn’t do it. I’ve done worse.

But now I will hold my tongue. There are reasons. I have a horse to lose in the race should I say something. There are many who would suffer for my self satisfaction of telling this guy what I think of him.

So I shall pass.

But don’t think I’ve forgotten. And I will make sure that even if we run in the same circles… I have no interaction with him.

Scary scary scary… he touts himself to being such a good Christian man. I hope I am there when he falls off that ivory tower… I’ve watched him in action. It will be a long fall.

Posted by Boudicca at April 2, 2006 09:29 PM | TrackBack

sometimes parents forget the kids can teach them great lessons.....

Posted by: armywifetoddlermom at April 3, 2006 12:01 AM

There was a coach I knew like that. Every time our team played his, I cringed.
I've said things in the past, to him it's like water on a ducks back.
I still see him around here and there, and I just glare nowadays.

Some people have no business being coaches.

Posted by: Rave at April 3, 2006 12:43 AM

YOU have an enemies list? Whoda thunk it?

Posted by: Ogre at April 3, 2006 06:30 AM

I can't tell you how often I see someone who proudly and loudly claims they are Christian behave in a reprehensible fashion.

Makes you wonder why they need to advertise their faith so much, hmmmm?

Posted by: Jack at April 3, 2006 08:32 AM

Heh - Jack beat me to it - but I'm behind on my blogging after the weekend.

Too bad you can't tell him off... but that's only good if it won't hurt anyone else. There are always jerks in kids sports - coaches, parents, and grandparents. It's really sad. Unfortunately, the higher up your boys go in sports - the more you'll run into it.

Posted by: Teresa at April 3, 2006 12:17 PM

Well that sucks! And he teaches his players to taunt kids? I would pull my kid from that team and make sure everyone knew why. Wow.

Posted by: Jody Halsted at April 3, 2006 08:32 PM