July 29, 2007

Food, Fun and Family

OK. I’m a jerk.

It was the first time I’d had all these people over. I had forgotten how they were a 2nd family to my husband while growing up. (His best friend moved away about 10 years ago.)


Suddenly I had a kitchen full of Italian women and *Poof* the table was cleared, dishes washed and dried, and I put them away while orchestrating the dessert/coffee/fruit course. Even the men jumped up and helped… which does not happen often.

His best friend’s mother said to me, “You didn’t need this in your life. This big dinner for us to come over. We’d have been happy with hot dogs and hamburgers. I cannot believe the effort…”

To which my husband replied, ‘Maria, you did this all the time when we were growing up. How many big family dinners did you do?’

Maria, who is now in her early 70s, said, “Exactly! I KNOW how much work it is… and with your kids. You didn’t need this. But we do appreciate it.”

And I think what happened yesterday, when my husband was with his best friend, the memories flooded back of the big Italian family dinners, the pasta, the sauce, the eggplant parmesan, the fruit and dessert, the people, the noise, the laughter… and I think he wanted to bring it all back.

And so it was. Fifteen people, with kids at the kid table, and wine and food, and laughter and jokes about their childhoods and discussions about futures and everyone in the kitchen harassing each other… the way I feel certain it was when my husband grew up.

Sunday in an Italian family.

Posted by Boudicca at July 29, 2007 08:20 PM | TrackBack

Sounds like a wonderful time.

; )

Posted by: Christina at July 29, 2007 09:07 PM

You're not a jerk, Bou. The anticipation is always far worse than the event. Well, almost always.

Posted by: Peggy U at July 30, 2007 12:27 AM

Oh, it sounds great! :D

Posted by: pam at July 30, 2007 08:25 AM

Nothing like a big Family Dinner. Or a bunch of good friends. That's what life's all about, innit?

Posted by: Elisson at July 30, 2007 12:34 PM


Posted by: Harvey at July 30, 2007 10:36 PM