August 26, 2007

Selling Pencils on a Street Corner?

Well I found out today, I shall remain unemployed for what appears to be an extended period of time. Iím not happy.

Iíve never been home for any great length of time, without kids. Iíve either been a Mom with kids under foot, or Iíve worked in some capacity. My frustration level is about peggedÖ but Iím trying not to dwell on that.

Key here to anyone who stumbles on this blogÖ donít go automotive or aerospace when out of college. And donít say I didnít frickiní warn anyoneÖ

AnywayÖ dwelling on the positive. I told my husband I will spend the month of September getting my health back in order. Working out an hour to an hour and a half every day, taking a day off every 3rd day or so, to maybe just walk a few miles instead of run, cycle, or lift. Iíll listen to my doctor and not frickiní fight him so much.

Thursday though, I did get a big two thumbs up and a big grin from him on my overall health. No, weíve not resolved the one lingering issue, but weíre narrowing things down and he proclaimed to me, ďBou, you really are in GREAT health. Cholesterol 160, BP 94/60, resting pulse 60Ö all tests came out great, your weight is good. Iím happy.Ē

Not bad for an almost 42 year old woman.

And if heís happy, Iím happy. I think heís more happy that Iím not going toe to toe with him constantly, that I have given in that I should listen, and heís more happy that he has a better understanding of who I am and how driven I am. I have more tests I have to have run, but I will listen and not work out like I did inadvertently before.

For one, I have no desire to freak him out again. Normal for this one test was a score of about 25-100. Mine came back 8000. When I took it not exercising, I was in the normal range. And two, I have no desire to repeat this test over and over and possibly get more invasive, so Iíll listen to what he says and do it all right.

So I have that. Good health and possibly better health on my sideÖ I wonder if I can get my resting heart rate to 55 and my cholesterol down to 150. GoalsÖ I need goals.

And there are projects around the house that I so DO NOT WANT TO DO. I am not a house person. At all. But, these things must be done, and I might as well bite the frickiní bullet and do them. Dammit. Iíll just make a list of what to do each day and get through it.

Iím a task oriented person.

Iíd so rather be working for pay and psychic income, neither of which I will get from any project around this frickiní house.

So. One day at a time. Itís all good. I just have to keep goals for myself and check them off my listÖ one day at a time. Goals. I need goals.

Posted by Boudicca at August 26, 2007 08:27 PM | TrackBack

... one day at a time is a great way to go... and good luck with work.....

Posted by: Eric at August 27, 2007 06:51 AM

Make goals and make yourself stick to them, coming from someone who was unemployed, during the winter and sunk into the abyss.

Maybe look at more volunteer opportunities, they will keep you busy and force you to have social interaction.

Posted by: Quality Weenie at August 27, 2007 08:07 AM

Eric- Yup, its all one day at a time, which is far better than hour by hour! I was afraid that's how it would be... but so far, I'm just looking at each day as it comes.

QW- I have a lot of volunteer work and will see what is coming up. I am hesitant to take on more only because there may be work coming, up, but you are right. I can always just spend more time working at the kids' school. I've also thought about getting on their Math Sub list... their Math teacher is rarely sick, but it might mix things up a bit. who knows... teaching a bunch of middle school kids Algebra and pre-Algebra may make me long for the empty quietness of my home. ;-)

Posted by: Bou at August 27, 2007 08:28 AM

ACK!!! I'm sorry to hear that.

Goals are good. I'm sure you've thought of branching out to look at different types of jobs. I know you "know" aerospace, but there might be other related fields you could find work in, and it doesn't hurt to look. Of course my husband is in automotive so I know all about the dearth of jobs. *sigh*

Teaching... oh no! Kill me now. LOL. You're a braver woman than I am.

Posted by: Teresa at August 27, 2007 09:16 AM

After I retired, my health got better. I didn't have to fight with the bureaucracy anymore and I had more time to work out.

I think trying to be a substitute teacher is a good idea. Maybe you could do some math tutoring?

Posted by: Denny at August 27, 2007 11:52 AM

As a sub teacher, you should stay busier than you want to be. And don't forget, there is always, find a need and fill it. Start your own business. Form a corporation and you will make more money than you ever made in a salary position.

Many women and men have gone this way and never went back. Good luck.

Posted by: nickel1942 at August 27, 2007 03:58 PM

About the math tutoring. If you decide to go that route, and your brain cells have started to atrophy like mine, flip back through the geometry, algebra, trig and calculus books you have and refresh your memory. I had an algebra student with a problem that involved the volume of a cone. For the life of me, I couldn't remember the formula. I sat there and used calculus to derive it. I guess it's all fine and good that I could come up with it that way - it's just that the poor algebra student must have thought I was a madwoman babbling the calc to myself while I cranked out the integral. I have a tendency to talk out loud while I think, which makes me seem even loopier than I am.

Be careful with the subbing thing, though. I was discouraged from this by a friend who subbed. You may find yourself more in demand than you wish to be, and on very short notice. In my friend's case, she ended up filling in for a teacher who was on an extended medical leave. There were some differences between her teaching style and that of the teacher she was subbing for, and it caused some friction between them.

I have often thought it would be good to start an after-school out-of-my-house tutoring service, since I live near the school anyway. I would obtain the texts that the local schools were using and become familiar with the teachers - possibly obtain the syllabi for their classes and copies of past quizzes and tests - so as to be familiar with their materials and methods. For example, I am aware that some teachers are more nitpicky than others on certain issues, and if you know that it helps to give the kids a heads up. I think this sort of business would be successful. I have a friend who lives in Maryland who runs a phonics/reading/composition instruction business out of her home, and she does quite well.

My most enjoyable tutoring sessions, however, have been with adults who are returning to college after many years. These people are motivated, seem to catch on quickly as a rule, and are genuinely interested in learning (that motivation thing is HUGE). They are also immensely pleased when they figure things out - things that may have baffled them when they first encountered them years ago. I have decided I would like to be the patron saint of middle aged women with math anxiety! It is so gratifying to watch the light come on. I believe, honestly, that women may have different developmental timelines than men, and that maybe the window of opportunity for learning math comes later into adulthood for many. For this reason, many women go through life believing that it is too difficult or that they don't have the aptitude. I wonder if it may be more a matter of timing ... it's just a hunch.

One thing I have thought might be fun and that might help elevate the overall performance of K-12 students is to hold evening classes for their parents, and to use the same texts the kids are using. If you can educate a parent, then the parent can pass it on to all of his/her children. That seems to me to be an efficient and economical way to go. But that's just another idea rolling around in my head with the rest of the loose marbles. Whaddayathink?

Posted by: Peggy U at August 27, 2007 08:57 PM

Subbing is a good way to stay busy, while staying in control of your time schedule. Remember, even if they call you, if you don't wish to accept the assignment, you don't have to. 'Course, you can't do that too often or the job offers dry up, but you can always say that you've accepted another assignment, or have a previously scheduled event.

Posted by: Nancy at August 27, 2007 09:11 PM

You'll always have blogging :-)

Posted by: Harvey at August 27, 2007 09:30 PM

Something will come along. And if nothing else you will be in even better shape - good for you! :)

Posted by: Richmond at August 28, 2007 02:31 PM

Of course, if Bones's pit licking act takes off, he may need a road manager! BTW, now you have time for a quilting thread.

Posted by: Peggy U at August 28, 2007 04:34 PM

You're too smart, too healthy and too good looking not to have a gig if you want it -- damned near any gig. Hell, I'm looking forward to not dragging my ass off to work every day, but I've more time in grade than you. :-)

Posted by: Jim - PRS at August 28, 2007 08:47 PM

I am so sorry to hear about your job. I can understand the need for goals and keeping yourself busy. I wish you were up here because I have been searching for a math tutor for our high school daughters. Do you know how hard it is to find them? I thought I also might mention a mentoring program. You have a ton of experience that you could pass on. Just a thought. Since I'm trying to make lemonade more often, I thought I should say that this is probably the time you will find an opportunity that you otherwise would not have looked for. Gotcha in my thoughts...

Posted by: Lemon Stand at August 29, 2007 10:07 AM