February 28, 2009

Who's Playing This Sport Anyway?

Bones had another Lacrosse game today and this time they lost 8-2.

I’m pretty happy.

Their first game they lost 16-0. Second game 6-0. This time 8-2.

I am sensing a trend. Total annihilation, a solid beating, and finally scoring.

Call me an optimist, but I think they’re improving.

One of the things that stressed me out so much last week, other than teen angst, is kids’ sports. We don’t play rec sports with our kids for a reason.

First, my kids are annoyed that sports act like their life should revolve around it, multiple practices, games, coaches carrying on like whatever sport should be central to all else.

They hate that.

They like to learn the sport and then they’re done. Their attitude is, “I’d rather play outside at home, then in a sport that rules my life.”

Second, we don’t see any reason for the vast crazy competitiveness of kids’ sports. Drafting, loading teams, etc. To us, it is to teach them how to play on a team, understand strategy, learn the sport, and fine hone some athletic skills.

Our kids will not be playing sports as a job out of college or high school. It’s supposed to be FUN.

Third, the parents, and really it is the reason for our second reason. And THAT is what has stressed me out this week. Parents ruin kids’ sports. I don’t get it.

It is as if they are trying to transfer themselves onto the field… living vicariously through their children. It makes me sick.

And I can’t go into it as I try to have a do no harm policy. I have nothing nice to say as to what I have heard this last week and what I have witnessed.

I find it revolting.

And depressing.

We ARE finishing out the season as we are not quitters. We are finishing as I think Bones needs this sport right now. He is enjoying it (the only reason to play), is sleeping well on nights he’s played (big bonus), and is understanding team work (a life skill).

After this season? I’m not sure. It costs a lot of money… a ‘rich white boys’ sport’ and we’re not rich white parents.

I’m not impressed by how the league has handled a few things. I’m not impressed by some of the parents.

At this point, however, it is invisible to Bones and that’s all that matters.

And hey, the only lost 8-2.

As for the teenage angst, the latest drama gone, the new one as he’s totally pissed off that for 8th grade superlatives for the Yearbook, he got, “Most Likely to be a Spy”. He wanted to be, “Most Likely to be a Rock Star.” Heh.

Posted by Boudicca at February 28, 2009 05:57 PM | TrackBack

It's refreshing to read about your take on kids' team sports. You are spot on Bou!

Posted by: DaammitWomann at March 1, 2009 12:58 AM

.... "The Natural" was on early last night, and I re-watched it again...... my, how baseball has changed.....

.... when it first came out, every little friend that I had wanted to be a baseball player..... and now?.... greed, corruption, drugs, unions...... you're right..... so many sports are depressing now.... even at the little league level.....

... they've lost their soul.....

Posted by: Eric at March 1, 2009 07:31 AM

He could totally be an undercover spy . . . disguised as a rock star! wheee!!

Posted by: oddybobo at March 1, 2009 10:44 PM