May 05, 2009

Bright Lights and Girls

Summer is here which means my kids are playing outside more at night. From after dinner until dark, my kids are gone, throwing open the sliders after dinner yellng, "Bye, Mom! We're going next door!"

Next door is one teenage girl my eldest's age and two smaller children that my kids have a love hate relationship with. (Kindergarten and 2nd grade.)

I have no reason to suspect my own are not part of the problem. I suspect it takes two... although I do think the incessant crying of the one little girl over anything and the kicking and biting of the one little boy, carries more weight than just about anything my boys do.


But, really they go over because in general they all run around like crazy and my eldest... is a bit sweet on the girl next door.

I didn't look like she does... not in middle school and not in high school.

She is an athlete so her body is trim, she has beautiful long black hair, dark eyes and olive skin, that betrays she may have some Latin in her. She is sweet as can be to me, always, "Hi, Mrs. L! What can I do for you, Mrs. L?"

She takes on a lot of responsiblity at home with her younger siblings.

I have heard stories of adults and parents who don't like her, they see her in her element at school, but here, in my home, in our neighborhood, she is a good kid.

But she is boy crazy. I hear the stories, I know of the revolving door... she is the girl that in middle school and high school we rolled our eyes at.

The girl who had a different boyfriend every week.

She'll be going to one of the larger high schools and I suspect that will fit her just fine.

But for now, I know my son... is a bit sweet on her and it bugs me. It bugs me because I know, that if during the summer she decides he is the boy of the week, that he is going to be crushed when he is... no longer.

He and I need to have a little talk because girls like her break hearts. My son is going to think that HE will be the one that she'll stick with and then he'll be broken when she moves on, wondering what is wrong with him...

... when in fact nothing is wrong with HIM at all. It's just how SHE IS.

Meanwhile, we are approaching the time when I swore I'd tear down the fort in the back of the house. I always said when my boys were old enough to have girls around the house, I'd make it very difficult for anyone to be alone.

The fort would go.

However, the fort is used right now to play war with their airsoft guns, usually a sniper sits in it while the enemy holes up in a bunker made of my old porch cushions.

So I'm in a bit of a conunudrum... I think what I need is a big honkin' spot light to shine on it from the house, one I can just flick on and keep it lit.

That should be my next step...

Posted by Boudicca at May 5, 2009 07:10 PM

Three words.

Motion Sensitive Spotlight.

Works great on my driveway.

Posted by: The Thomas at May 5, 2009 08:48 PM

When you have teenagers who think they're madly in love and will be together with their soulmates forever, don't you just want to shake them and scream NO!!! It's only a passing phase! Sooner or later you'll have your heart broken over nothing! Don't even think of tattooing her name to your backside! Go listen to the song Paradise By The Dashboard Light!

I know, teenagers need to learn how to deal with broken hearts and move on, that it's part of the growing process. But the mindset of today's teens scare me. Rather than realize there is a tomorrow and a future, too many teens make stupid decisions without thinking through the consequences. A few, after a breakup, have gotten so low as to kill themselves, before they could understand that life goes on and so could they. I guess it's up to us as parents to not let them push us out completely to the point where we can't be there for them when they need us, whether they think they do or not.

Posted by: diamond dave at May 5, 2009 11:25 PM

The Thomas- YES! That's the answer!

DD- LOL! There is just so much drama.

Posted by: Bou at May 6, 2009 06:07 AM

I think I sent you that pic I found of my 12 yo making out with her boyfriend on myspace. Sigh. I just wanna be a mom before I'm a grandma.

Posted by: wRitErsbLock at May 6, 2009 06:47 AM

Oddly enough it may be better, if he does get his heart broken, that it happens at this age. Once he gets older he'll keep things more to himself and you won't be able to help as much.

OTOH she may never make him "boy of the week" just because he lives next door and she sees him so frequently. This in itself may cause him severe angst of the "she likes all those other guys why not me" variety.

There is no winning with this stuff, it just is. Your sons seem to have their heads screwed on pretty straight, so while I know it's very painful to watch, (been there), there is ultimately nothing you can do about it except be there for him.

I like the sensor light though ROFLMAO. Excellent suggestion.

Posted by: Teresa at May 6, 2009 12:58 PM

Eh, what you will really need is a spotlight that comes on when the motion pretty near stops.

Posted by: Peter at May 7, 2009 01:27 AM