June 06, 2009

HB, Bones!

Today is 'D' Day. That's one of the first things TGOO said to me when Bones was born. "He's born on D Day."

And what I'm hoping is, knowing his entire life he was born on D Day, will push him to fully understand it, to read about it, to be able to tell others about the events of his birthday, 55 years before his birth.

Today is his 10th, D Day's 65th.

Bones it the cartoon in our family. It's like living with Calvin from Calvin and Hobbes, except he has two older brothers and never had a Hobbes, but preferred a stuffed Ernie from Sesame Street.

When I found out I was pregnant, something not foreseen in our life plan, I said to my husband, "There has to be a reason for this..."

There are days that that very phrase is the only thing that sees me through, "There has to be a reason for this..."

Big energy all the time, he is my high maintenance child. My ADHD child that struggles with concepts that have always come easy for me... a child I do not understand or relate to.

On any level.

He is here... and I learn from him... every day.

He has a zest for life I cannot even imagine. I NEVER bounded out of bed excited about the start of the new day, looking at each day as a gift bestowed upon me by the universe, for my sole pleasure.

Yet, that is his outlook. Every day is golden, a wonder, a whole new adventure.

Extroverted, funny, enthusiastic, a dear friend of mine said once, "Every adult that meets him thinks, "I want that. I want to be like that.""

Everything is big to him, nothing is small. His voice is big, his expressions are big, life is big. Nothing done to him is small, no discussion with him is insignificant, no argument with him is not worth his pushing the limits.

With the good, comes the bad.

The Yin and the Yang.

He is both.

He is the child I worry for most. Not identifying with him on any level, I can't fathom what is going to happen in his life, what choices he will make.

He's all over the road, 100 MPH, from sun up until sun down. He exhausts me at times, making me want to hide in a dark quiet room. Sensory Deprivation Tank comes to mind.

But he is mine, he is ours, he makes us laugh, he pushes us to see life at an angle we never would have... and we love him dearly.

And so to Bones I say, “Happy Birthday my youngest son. Should all the children be so blessed to be as loved as you are… for if they were, I suspect the problems of this world would be so very different… We love you so.”

Bones smaller.jpg
Taken in Pensacola in July 2008.

Bones in Alabama.jpg
Taken in Alabama in Huntsville, July 2008.

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Taken at my Aunt's house in Alabama. The boys, unbeknownst to me, had smuggled Rolly Pollies to her home, in plastic bags, in the asexual Mom-mobile. I was not pleased. This is probably how we have non-native plants and bugs introduced in various states... little boys smuggling all this crap across state borders.

Posted by Boudicca at June 6, 2009 12:30 PM

Happy Birthday Bones!

Posted by: oddybobo at June 6, 2009 09:46 PM

I hope your birthday wishes come true, Bones! :)

Posted by: PeggyU at June 7, 2009 01:54 AM

Happy Birthday Bones!

Posted by: sticks at June 7, 2009 05:39 AM

.... the happiest of birthdays to your littlest man!......

Posted by: Eric at June 7, 2009 07:22 AM

Happy Birthday little dude!

Posted by: Sissy at June 7, 2009 09:17 AM

happy birthday bones!

Posted by: wRitErsbLock at June 7, 2009 04:20 PM

Happy birthday Bones!

Posted by: Jody at June 7, 2009 08:15 PM

Happy Birthday Bones!

Posted by: Mary at June 7, 2009 09:20 PM

I am a tad late... a belated very Happy Birthday to you Bones. I hope you had a wonderful day!

Posted by: Teresa at June 7, 2009 10:12 PM

Happy Birthday to a beautiful young man!! Mine is just like yours. He is 24 now and doing fine. He knows that Momma is and always has been his biggest cheerleader and loves him dearly. He found his niche in working with his hands as a crash test technician. He hopes to be a test driver someday. Yours will do fine too, as his parents love him and because you are his parents and biggest cheerleaders!! Godspeed Bones!!

Posted by: Anastasia at June 7, 2009 11:00 PM

Happy Birthday, Bones! May you always have the joy and zest for life that makes life's challenges worth living.

Posted by: Mrs. Who at June 8, 2009 07:45 AM

A little belated but Happy Birthday none the less!

Posted by: Quality Weenie at June 8, 2009 08:16 AM