June 11, 2009

A Peacefulness... Sets In

You know you are an extraordinarly devout Catholic family when 'The Bish' shows up to a family funeral. Partakes. Presence looms large...

The strength of some people perpetually amazes me. There was weeping throughout the church, but a peace with the family, the parents celebrating they had 10 months longer than they ever expected.

Half full or half empty? Attitude plays so much.

The EMT crew that responded to the call came. They were young men... young. Honestly? It sucks to be the family, but it sucks to be that EMT crew. Coming to the Mass, one of them a Catholic for sure, two of the crew not knowing the family personally other than having responded before... they are trying to come to terms with it.

To come in finding a father performing CPR on a baby... doesn't matter if you know the circumstances or not going in, that's a tough gig.

I think I'm at peace with it... because the parents are. The hardest part of a funeral is the grieving of those left behind. But when those left behind have the attitude of 'Half Full', a celebration of life, peace, acceptance... the pain in the hearts of those who look from the outside is patted down.

Not extinguished...

Just... tempered.

There is no bringing her back, but their attitude, their strong faith, will keep her alive.

That brings me peace.

Posted by Boudicca at June 11, 2009 06:10 PM

You are so right. It is all attitude. What a remarkable family.

Posted by: Teresa at June 11, 2009 09:35 PM

I have to tell you, it was the most amazing funeral I've ever been to. I shed not a tear... I got choked, but did not weep. It was uplifting and the attitude of everyone, the parents who BOTH did eulogies, is very... comforting? Mmm. Loss for words...

I just cannot imagine standing up and giving the eulogy of my child... and to do it with such love and devotion, voice never waivering. And undying faith that all happened as it was supposed to and a great peace.

I keep going over it in my head... but as she said to someone we know mutually, they have been grieving for 15 months.

Posted by: Bou at June 11, 2009 09:42 PM

I have this uncontrollable urge to hug my kids right now.

Posted by: Graumagus at June 11, 2009 10:31 PM

Bou - that is so true. For you this is sudden for them it has been slowly and painfully unfolding. It sounds like they've been working on the acceptance part. I am still in awe of their ability to do that. They are far better people than I am.

Posted by: Teresa at June 12, 2009 12:08 PM

You are so right about the EMT's having one of the toughest jobs. I've had to call them more times than I'd like, due to my boyfriend having a heart attack and then complications after bypass surgery.

I don't know how they deal with all that stress and uncertainty. They must be pushed to the limit, trying to make everything Ok. I always say a small prayer when ever I see a fire truck or aid car rushing off to an emergency. They are great people.

Posted by: DogsDontPurr at June 12, 2009 07:35 PM

Wow -got caught up a bit on this story and I'm in tears. What a powerful tribute to the endurance of the spirit that the parents were able to eulogize their precious angel.

We have old friends whose daughter died on 9/11 at the age of 32. Her fiance gave the eulogy at her memorial service - with his best friend standing right behind him as backup. He never needed it - truly inspiring.

I think it speaks volumes to the life lost when family can do that. The power of their spirit fills everyone around them. Amazing.

Posted by: Kris, in New England at June 13, 2009 11:14 AM