January 18, 2010

Tossin' Out a Few Good Vibes

I think everyone is pretty well aware now of Denny's accident. Denny is our blog friend who happens to be a paraplegic. I say 'happens to' because it's a side note when it comes to Denny.

His losing the use of his legs has not defined him. Don't get me wrong, it's a major pain in the neck for him, and if he had a do over, he'd make sure it didn't happen, but it's not what defines Denny. It's not him. He is him and 'by the way, his legs don't work'.

For those that don't know, Denny lost the use of his legs when he fell out of a tree and broke his spine. Since then, he's flown airplanes, took up scuba diving, and took up skiing as well. Not having the use of his legs hasn't kept him from doing what he wants to do.

And even though his blog is Grouchy Old Cripple, and he's very upfront about being a crip, that's not WHO he is.

He is Denny who retired from IBM, is an expert on wine, goes scuba diving in the summer, skiing in the winter, and travels in between. guitar player, singer and kazoo blower.

I think the funniest post about his accident has been over at Erica's, where she calls him the Chuck Norris of cripples. My eldest son and I have been laughing about that.

My kids know Denny. They also know that he got hurt in a skiing accident. They know that nothing has kept Denny from... being Denny.

And I honestly had never given thought as to what it was like to be a paraplegic until Denny wrote THIS post, with absolute brutal honesty as to what it's like to be him, the concerns, the trials and tribulations of every day life. If you've not read it, Go Read It. Singlehandedly, one of the most moving posts I've read in a long time. It gave me a glimpse into a world... he makes look so easy.

So there are pictures here and there of Denny, and I don't have one of him with me and Denny, something that needs to be corrected, but I do have one from a couple years ago when we all celebrated the October birthday's at Eric's home.

I believe I call this picture "Birthday Cake in Flames".

birthdaycake in flames.jpg

I sent Denny a text earlier today just to let him know I'm thinking about him. I know not where he is, or of the status, or whether he actually RECEIVES texts as I usually just call him, but just in case, I thought I'd tell him.

Denny, a devout atheist, would more than welcome your positive thoughts, I feel assured. You can throw a prayer out there too... I'm sure he's cool with that as well.

Posted by Boudicca at January 18, 2010 09:38 PM

If you talk to him, tell him I love him / miss him, would ya? I hate that this happened to him. I think on his blog, when he gets well, he should add to his posts of French and Barbra Streisand bashing, wayward dooshbag skier bashing. Friggin' putz.

Posted by: Erica at January 19, 2010 07:25 AM

A great post about a great guy. Thanks.

Posted by: Jim - PRS at January 19, 2010 07:37 PM

Bou - I am humbled and honored to have a friend like you.

Posted by: Denny at January 19, 2010 07:50 PM

Thanks for the great post and picture, Bou!
Denny, we miss you! Get well soon!

Posted by: Mary at January 19, 2010 08:02 PM

Having met Denny i agree - he is a great person. Good thoughts I will be sending his way... :)

Posted by: Richmond at January 19, 2010 08:20 PM

I had no idea - NONE! I hate that I've been so bogged down in work I didn't know about Denny's accident. I feel terrible. Thanks for the post - Denny is one in a million and the world would be a much dimmer place without him.

Posted by: Teresa at January 19, 2010 08:39 PM