August 03, 2010

Oct 16, 1925-Aug 2, 2010

Blogging will be light as the funeral is Friday and what feels like the entire State of New Jersey is spilling into my house this week.

Arrangements have been made. My obit is being used. I caught last night that I had forgotten to put down his date of death. Oddly... his life seemed so important as I told his story, that his death didn't make my radar.

I'm having a tough time getting through all my email. I am going to answer and if I have not, it is not because I'm not appreciating! I'm just overloaded and treading water.

The normal grieving is going on... it comes in waves. All have settled into acceptance, of course, as there will be no resurrection. Death is so very... final.

My husband left for work this morning while I was still in bed. I can tell he's struggling again this morning... he being the one with Pop while he died, something I found fitting. My husband is the one that looked after him the last 10 years, it was right that he be the one as he took his last breath.

Anyway, I lay in bed when I felt his hand upon my forehead to tell me he was leaving. Through blurry eyes, I said, "Take your shoes off, crawl back in bed with me. Let's just... be." He shook his head and said he had things to clear up at the office. So he's sorting through and will take the rest of the week off.

But that overwhelming temptation is there... just crawl back in bed, pull the sheets over our heads and maybe the world will just... go away.

It would be nice.

Posted by Boudicca at August 3, 2010 07:05 AM

Heartfelt condolences to you and your husband...your kids...your family...

Posted by: Erica at August 3, 2010 07:52 AM

I'm so sorry. Hugs to you all.

Posted by: wRitErsbLock at August 3, 2010 08:09 AM

My thoughts are with you at this time. Hugs from me

Posted by: Amanda at August 3, 2010 08:14 AM

Deepest condolences to you and the family. {{Hugs}}

Posted by: Pam at August 3, 2010 08:27 AM

**hugs** Thinking of you, sending as much strength your way as possible.

Posted by: Rave at August 3, 2010 08:49 AM

So, so sorry for your family's loss. You have handled it all with such grace and humor and determination. I'm sure it was a great help to your father-in-law and a true blessing to your husband.

Posted by: Leigh at August 3, 2010 08:52 AM

As always, we are here for you.


Posted by: The Thomas at August 3, 2010 09:07 AM

So sorry to read of your loss. take your time and best wishes to you and yours.

Posted by: dick at August 3, 2010 09:20 AM

Sincere condolences, Bou.
Keeping all of you in my thoughts.

Posted by: Jean at August 3, 2010 09:43 AM

Thoughts and prayers with you and your family.

Posted by: diamond dave at August 3, 2010 09:56 AM

Keeping you and your family in my thoughts, Bou.

Posted by: Pammy at August 3, 2010 10:13 AM

I am so sorry for your loss.

You and your family are in my thoughts and prayers.


Posted by: Quality Weenie at August 3, 2010 10:53 AM

I am sorry Bou!

Posted by: PeggyU at August 3, 2010 12:47 PM

I'm glad the suffering is over and that Pop now is at peace. I send love and prayers and condolences to you and yours.

Posted by: Omnibus Driver at August 3, 2010 01:00 PM

.... ditto what Omnibus Driver said..... you guys are on our minds here...

Posted by: Eric at August 3, 2010 02:16 PM

Thoughts and prayers coming your way.

Posted by: Mike D. at August 3, 2010 02:22 PM

My deepest condolences to all of the family and friends. It's been a long road for you all. May Pop rest in peace and may your memories of the best of times bring you comfort.

Posted by: Teresa at August 3, 2010 04:19 PM

In that still and peaceful place
where your spirit goes to mend,
May peace and comfort shelter you
until you’re strong again.

With Sympathy

Posted by: cin at August 3, 2010 05:53 PM

God Bless you and your family. Like Leigh said, grace, humor and determination. I know from personal experience that being inevitable doesn't make it easy. Two weeks from now is when your husband will need you the most.

Posted by: Jill at August 3, 2010 06:02 PM

My deepest and heartfelt condolences.

Posted by: Sean at August 3, 2010 07:00 PM

My condolences to you and your family.

I just read the obituary you wrote in today's paper and it sounds like he was an amazing guy.

Posted by: George P at August 4, 2010 08:00 AM

You did a wonderful job on the obit, Bou.

Have "fun" with your houseful of visitors.
You and your family will be in our thoughts and prayers the rest of the week. {{{{{Hugs}}}}}

Posted by: The Thomas at August 4, 2010 08:30 AM

Bou, you may want to talk to the newspaper.

The funeral is this Friday, but they indicate that the obit is to run until Wednesday the 11th. That is 5 days more than you need.

Posted by: The Thomas at August 4, 2010 09:27 AM

My condolences to the entire family.

Posted by: Ted at August 4, 2010 10:14 AM

You did a very nice job on the obit. Pop would have been proud. Take solace in the fact that Pop and Mom are joined together again.

Be strong for your family. They'll need your support. After the funeral you can pull the sheets over your heads. Now, go give Pop a nice sendoff.

Pop will be missed but I have a feeling he was the type of guy that you'll be telling Pop stories for years to come.

Posted by: Jerry in Indiana at August 4, 2010 05:39 PM

Prayers for all of your family...

Posted by: Mrs. Who at August 4, 2010 07:02 PM

Prayers and good thoughts for your family.

Rest ye in peace, Pop.


Posted by: jw at August 4, 2010 07:24 PM

My sincere condolences.

Posted by: Yabu at August 5, 2010 07:13 AM

Ohh, Bou - I am so sorry. SWMBO and I send our love and deepest condolences.

The world, alas, will not go away when we grieve. And that's OK, because the people who are still walking the planet with us need us.

Take comfort in the knowledge that you were the best DIL anyone could want... and that you are surrounded by friends and family that are thinking of you.

Posted by: Elisson at August 5, 2010 08:51 AM

My condolences to you and your family. Having gone through this the last week (although entirely unexpected)I am right there with you.

Posted by: Richard at August 6, 2010 07:43 PM

My thoughts are with you.

Posted by: Denny at August 6, 2010 10:36 PM