September 10, 2010


I received notification from the school tonight, that grades were posted for Bones on this week's tests.

He had a math test today.

Last year, 3rd quarter in math... he made an F. We received no help from his teacher, no guidance in what to do, no heads up, she flat didn't care. Bones and I flailed. Fourth quarter, he brought it up to a D.

I was sick. I didn't post any of this. Until you have a child that struggles, until you have a child that is failing... you cannot know how hard it is to openly say, "My child is failing."

You are sick for them. You are sick for you. You are sick for their future.

I had people actually laugh when they heard, friends, who said, "You tutor MATH and your kid is FAILING?" I was so angry I wanted to punch them in the face. It's nothing to laugh at when you cannot help your own child. It's beyond personal. Never should there be the sound of laughter when any child is failing at anything.

He had his first math test today. For three weeks we've been religiously doing homework. For three weeks he's been saying, "Hey! I think I get it!" For three weeks he's been saying, "Mom, I LOVE my math teacher. He explains it all so well." For three weeks...

...and today... he made a 92.

I took a deep breath, clicked on the grade button, closed my eyes, opened them... and he had A.

My son has an A in math.

I'm so happy... I'm crying.

I have hope.

Posted by Boudicca at September 10, 2010 09:43 PM

Wooo hooo! Let me be first to congratulate y'all!

And you know, it's mostly about motivation. I swear, if I had a teenage son that didn't like to read, I'd start buying cheap pornographic novels (no pictures) and leaving them around the house.

Posted by: Carl Brannen at September 11, 2010 01:13 AM

That is the best news I have heard in months.

Posted by: vwbug at September 11, 2010 06:20 AM

Congratulations, and you know what, he'll strive for an A from now on.

Posted by: Yabu at September 11, 2010 06:31 AM

.... that is great!..... that little boy will go far yet!....

Posted by: Eric at September 11, 2010 07:08 AM


Posted by: wRitErsbLock at September 11, 2010 08:43 AM

A heartfelt congratulations to BOTH of you!

Posted by: Lemon Stand at September 11, 2010 09:29 AM

Dear Lord, I am crying too! Way to go Bones! You know he is a smart kid. He just need the right teacher.

Posted by: Jiily at September 11, 2010 09:32 AM

Hey is a terrific kid, who is so lucky to have just as terrific a mom. Congrats to all of you -- that is freakin' awesome! Oh -- and happy belated birthday... Hope you had a great day. :)

Posted by: Erica at September 11, 2010 10:05 AM

Hey = He (sigh)

Posted by: Erica at September 11, 2010 10:05 AM

Way to go Bones!!! That is fantastic!

And thus it proves a point I've tried to make for years - it all depends on the teacher and are they explaining things so the student can understand.

I've been there like you and had to pull through that really bad patch. My son's tutor who was a wonderful woman and really connected with my son and got him through High School, flat out told me she was not able to tutor her own son. Like you, people laughed at her. She even tried to see the humorous side herself. She and her son just didn't mesh when it came to teaching/learning. My son and I didn't either. I wanted to strangle all the people who told me to pull him out of school and home school - it would have been a disaster for him of epic proportions.

For all of you - I am so glad you have this school for Bones. It sounds like the best thing in the world.

Posted by: Teresa at September 11, 2010 10:45 AM

Happy tears here, too. Way to go, Bones!

Posted by: Jean at September 11, 2010 11:42 AM

Happy dance for you both!!!!

Posted by: Mrs. Who at September 11, 2010 08:08 PM

Congratulations, Bou! Nothing succeeds like success :) I think the taste of hard earned accomplishment is more encouraging than any other motivator out there. I am glad you got off on a good foot this year, and that this marks the beginning of a love of math.

Posted by: PeggyU at September 12, 2010 02:12 PM

I'm crying too! Great news!

Posted by: Shaz at September 12, 2010 08:33 PM

hooray! here's to hoping the great teacher boosts his confidence and that carries him forward from this year. nothing can kill a kid's spirit or desire to learn like struggling with a teacher who doesn't understand. nothing can make a kid soar like a teacher who does understand.

Posted by: patti at September 12, 2010 09:13 PM


Posted by: Walrilla at September 12, 2010 09:24 PM

Where is the "like" button...?

Posted by: P'cola Titan at September 13, 2010 02:07 PM

Wow. That's great, Bou!

Posted by: Jerry in Indiana at September 13, 2010 03:01 PM

Talked to my mom tonight on the phone and we talked about how when me and my sister were young my sister would ask mom for help with math problems, explain the math problem, derive the solution, thank mom and leave for her room whereas I would approach dad, when he was home and ask for help and he would show me three ways to derive the solution to that problem, I would thank him and leave for my room and attack the next math problem, only to be clueless.

Multiple approaches seem to work in math. I got that later. I didn't understand that in the 7th and 8th grade.

Posted by: Curtis at September 15, 2010 01:04 AM

Had the same problem with my youngest - great kid, just could not keep her head in the game. At the insistence of one of my siblings, I took her to the doc in the box. I was a little mollified when she was diagnosed with ADD, and I was certainly reluctant to allow her to be treated with adderol - but it worked. Just a suggestion.

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