January 20, 2011

Mr. T Continues to Age...

Today is my 2nd son's birthday. He is 14. I'm at a bit of a loss as to how these years are speeding by so quickly. One minute I'm looking at a picture thinking, "When did I become a middle aged woman?" and the next minute my 2nd son is turning 14 and preparing for high school.

That 6.5 years when they all fly the coop is coming quickly...

I wonder often what will happen with Mr. T. He is my driven child, rather unforgiving with a profound sense of justice, a perfectionist who can get too caught in everything having to be just right, a son who looks like my family yet does not, an athletic kid who refuses to let his life be ruled by athletics, a rather anti-social child who'd rather hang at home and play catch in the yard any day of the week over going to the mall or anywhere that social.

Of the three, he's the kid who would make the best surgeon with amazing fine motor skills and a sharp mind and determination, yet I would vote him the least likely to go that route.

He wants to be an engineer. He wants to go to Georgia Tech. I wonder if he realizes how much work is in store for him. He always does his homework, but has never had to really study.

He has loathed this school year, absolutely disgusted by more than half the teachers he has. There are days when he comes home that he is so angry and disgusted by things he has witnessed, that he can hardly speak to me. He is counting down the days until graduation.

He will not look back.

He has applied to our local IB high school. He is using Ringo's school as a back up. The thought of his taking the bus and going to a school that's 'free' has me nearly giddy. It's competive however, and I don't know if he'll get it.

But... I know he'll be fine no matter where he goes. I have told him he needs to play a sport in high school, so he's already trying to figure out what he'll do, whether its running track or playing JV Lacrosse. He has to stay well rounded.

It all counts now.

He's a great kid. He really is. He has next to no interest in girls, finding most of them silly at this point. The girls he goes to school with he's known since he was 5. That makes them all like sisters. That makes my life easy. He gets a little quirky, but I think that comes with being in middle school and trying to figure out how to fit into a body that is growing too quickly.

I'm not... worried per se. I am curious. I'm just curious as to how his life will fall out. Will he get into the IB School? If he does, will he be able to withstand the pressure? Will he learn how to test as he's a HORRIBLE test taker and needs to do well on the SATs? Will he get into Georgia Tech?

He's 14 and in our society, already we have to look at these things... at 14. Insane, really.

He's a great kid though. He's a fantastic kid. I could not ask for a better son. He is my child... I have never worried about. The dutiful son. In the end... I suspect, when all is said and done... I will have worried for him just as much. It is just different things for him... his path is different than the other boys.

I love him so much... it hurts.

And so to Mr. T, on his 14th birthday, I say, “Happy Birthday my 2nd son. Should all the children be so blessed to be as loved as you are… for if they were, I suspect the problems of this world would be so very different… We love you so.”

Mr. T over five years ago... I had been blogging for a couple years:


Mr. T today... Age 14.


Posted by Boudicca at January 20, 2011 09:00 PM

Happiest of Birthdays Mr. T!!!!

Posted by: vwbug at January 21, 2011 05:42 AM

Happy Birthday Mr. T!

Posted by: Jilly at January 21, 2011 06:08 AM

.... happy birthday, Mr. T!......

Posted by: Eric at January 21, 2011 07:05 AM

Happy Birthday, Mr. T! :-D

Posted by: pam at January 21, 2011 08:32 AM

happy birthday!

Posted by: wRitErsbLock at January 21, 2011 09:30 AM

A very Happy Birthday Mr. T!!!! Have a fantastic day!

Posted by: Teresa at January 21, 2011 10:36 AM

Happy Birthday! I hope it is a fantastic day!

Posted by: oddybobo at January 21, 2011 11:18 AM

HAPPY BIRTHDAY MR T!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Posted by: Quality Weenie at January 21, 2011 12:08 PM

Happy Birthday, Mr. T!

At that age, my eldest, Sagacitas, had already taken the SAT 3 times.

This was at the instigation of Northwestern, which has been tracking advanced placement students from Elementary school onwards.

Northwestern's work is part of Title X which was initiated by the National Defense Education Act of 1958. My advanced placement in elementary was the result of the NDEA. Go Space Race!

Posted by: The Thomas at January 21, 2011 12:23 PM

One aside about the SAT writing portion. Make sure he brings a sharp pencil, Pentel or whatnot.

They grade down on the essay when they can't read it.

We saw this with our son the first year they instituted the writing portion. His handwriting is a bit better than mine, but he won't print when he needs to make it legible. Just sayin.

Posted by: The Thomas at January 21, 2011 12:26 PM

Wow - happy birthday wishes from me too! What a handsome talented young man!

Posted by: Richmond at January 21, 2011 03:30 PM

Time goes by so very quickly but I suspect, Mr. T. that your greatest strength will always be in the support and love of your family. Your Mom is right. What a very different world it would be. Happy Birthday Mr. T.

Posted by: Lemon Stand at January 21, 2011 04:46 PM

Thank you, everyone! He had a GREAT birthday. My folks got him Madden 11 and he's in heaven. We got him a new bike, it's too big, we have to take it back. Bummer.

As for the SAT, our school only offers the opportunity in 7th grade and unfortunately, he was sick during the test scores that they used (6th grade scores) and did even worse than normal. His grades are never equal to his test scores. That's what any extra cash we ever have will go towards for him... teaching him to take the test. His brother already took it though and told him it was no big deal. (7th grade) I think it was just a good experience. I wish T had had it... he's have gotten more out of it.

Posted by: Bou at January 21, 2011 10:55 PM

Happy Birthday a day late! He is the same age as my boy, though mine turns 14 in June. They'll be starting high school together. There is no IB school here - don't really know if there is one anywhere in NC!

Posted by: patti at January 22, 2011 11:20 AM

Fourteen? Really? Wow. Tempus fugit.

(Gotta admit, my dad used to intentionally mispronounce that particular Latin phrase. Heh.)

Anyhow, happy belated birthday to Mister T!

Posted by: zonker at January 23, 2011 03:38 AM