January 23, 2011

Defining Moments

We make decisions in life and wonder often if they are the correct ones. Then something happens, maybe 10-15 years down the road and it confirms you did it right.

One of them was moving into this house.

We live far out of town and it is not uncommon for me to spend hours in the car, schlepping the kids here and there. It has made me wonder if we made the right decision. Should we have moved in town, to the Village my husband's folks lived?

I was adament about not living that close to the water as hurricane time can spell disaster that far to the coast. Growing up in coastal towns, I wanted to live as far inland as possible. Sure enough, all our friends that lived in my in-laws old neighborhood had significant home damage during the years of all those hurricanes.

We did not.

All my kids' friends live in town. It bugs me that they can't just run outside and play with their friends. They play together or we have boys over. I know it's not the same.

Because of this, anytime my sons want their friends over, I say yes, and I cook. A lot. I want kids to WANT to be here.

And on Saturday, Ringo had 9 friends over. They went paintballing and had a blast, using my home as homebase... and at the end, I had 13 boys playing football in my backyard. Ages 11 (Bones) to 16, there were all these boys screaming and laughing and harrassing each other.

I had sandwiches, chips, and homemade brownies on the back porch for them. All food was devoured. The boys were happy and polite and I think they'll come back.

And it was a defining moment. Yes. We made the right decision.

This is a boys' home. I love it.

Posted by Boudicca at January 23, 2011 10:22 PM

This sounds like the way my dad describes his mother's house; the place where everyone's kids were welcome and laughter was constant.

Posted by: Carl Brannen at January 24, 2011 01:18 AM

Like everything else we do... we weigh the options and try to make the very best choices to suit us. We always think about the option(s) not chosen. How would things be different?

I'm sure no matter where you decided to settle, your house would be the one where the kids like to hang out. The big difference would be how much you like the place itself.

You chose a place that made you the most comfortable and that makes it much easier to accommodate the extra driving you need to do to make it all come together for you. It all works out in the end.

Posted by: Teresa at January 25, 2011 03:52 PM