March 22, 2011

Digging up Bones

My internet is up and running. The big joke at work is "Never over ride your WAN!" to which someone usually pipes up and says, "What's a WAN?"


President Obama has confused me. Bush was a bad man for sending us into Iraq and Afghanistan. Bush lied, People died. Right?

So he ran under the guise that HE was going to ensure we were no longer at war.

And then, as I said to my husband right after the election, "Now he knows the secret handshake. Now he knows we can't get out..."

Sure enough, we're still there.

And now? And NOW? We're in Libya.

So we're still in Iraq and Afghanistan and now we're bombing Libya.

Look, I'm not saying we shouldn't be doing it, but I just find it astounding that two years later, not only did he not do what he said he was going to do, but he's committed our military somewhere else.

I sense a goat rope coming our way.

Maybe I'm too simple to understand...


I wasn't ready for Spring Break to be over. The sleep... was nice. The lack of homework... was nice.

Bones is on his Math teacher's last dang nerve. And... I completely get it. I'm absolutely on his Math teacher's side.

So I've put Bones on notice that he's in deep dirt with me if he ends up with one more little note in his planner.

More than any other type of teacher, Math teachers struggle with Bones' type of personality and it's NOT up to the math teachers to adapt, but for Bones to understand.

Thankfully he only has him three times a week for 90 minutes. We have nine more weeks for this guy to have to tolerate my son. It could be a long nine weeks...


I have spent the better part of the last four or five nights digging up dead people. I decided it was time to go ahead and get formally documented all my kin that participated in the Revolutionary War, came in through Jamestowne or over on the Mayflower.

TGOO has all this stuff in his head, a lot of it in his files, and I decided now it was the time for my files to be created and documentation to take place for future generations. With both my folks families involved, I think I'm at 11 folks involved with the Revolutionary War.

It's been interesting... sad sometimes.

I ran across one woman whose birth and death date had some discrepancy. The conversation went like this...

Me: Someone messed up Granny's papers. They have Sally's birth and death in 1790.

TGOO: Sally was born in 1754. I'm not sure she really died in 1790, but that's what we have. Her Dad had her in his will and he died in 1800. Why would he do that? Besides, her last child was born in 1790.

Me: Dad, she may have died in 1790. In childbirth.

TGOO: Yeah, but the will, that doesn't make sense. Why would he keep her in the will?

Me: Dad. I think she had twins. I'm looking through the names... Dad, I think she died in childbirth, giving birth to twin girls...

Now here it is over 200 years later... and I want to know what happened to Sally. I am... sad for her.


While digging up dead people, I said to TGOO, "Wow. I'm glad I wasn't a male on Mom's side. Holy crap. They seem to have died young..."

It would be interesting to have actual death certificates on BOTH sides. Is there a trend? All heart attacks? Diabetes? Makes one wonder...

On my Dad's side I found a son who died just two years after his dad. As my Dad said, "Wouldn't you love to have their death certificates?"

Yeah, theirs, Sally's, and a lot of men on my Mom's side!


Lastly, this is a funny conversation about VW.

We recently found she is missing ONE link between her and someone who participated in the Revolutionary War. That link MIGHT be located in a cemetery about five hours north of here.

I told her I'd gladly go stomping through that cemetery with her. We can drive up there, I have some friends we might be able to stay with, and we can search gravestones. All my girlfriends up there are of the paper gravedigging type, so they'd be cool. Even if they are all over 80.

Years old.

And VW pretty much said this to me, which I found to be a dang riot, 'Yeah, remember how I told you that my Dad's family was up that way and how we don't have anything to do with them? So when we go up there, we need to avoid the live ones."

I'm sorry, but I think that's one of the funniest things I've heard in a long time. I've been telling all my friends into genealogy this story.

Sometimes... the dead ones are the safest!

Posted by Boudicca at March 22, 2011 08:57 PM

*snicker* Of course Sticks offered to join us and I found it even funnier that a bunch of girlfriends get together over a weekend... NOT for a spa day but to go trapsing through graveyards. That made me laugh. Yaa, I can't wait. Need to pick that weekend soon!

Posted by: vwbug at March 23, 2011 04:27 AM

I told Val that you both are more than welcome to camp out here. I'm only 30 minutes from your research sites. There is also a little historical society here in my town. They have a lot of information on her family name.

I love Val's statement. I enjoy gravesite research. It is always so peaceful. The one Val's family is in has a windchime outside the church. Everytime I hear the bell, I think "An angel is getting it's wings."

Let me know when you two are headed this way. I would love to help.

Posted by: Sticks at March 23, 2011 04:41 AM

It's a date!!! We're going to have so much fun! We just need to get through the calendar and find a good weekend.

Posted by: Bou at March 23, 2011 05:18 AM

I had ancestors that fought in the revolution. First one was killed right off the bat at Bunker Hill. Other one was a Hessian, spent bulk of the war on a prison hulk.

Jedidiah is memorialized at the Smithsonian. The Hessian is largely forgotten

Posted by: Curtis at March 23, 2011 04:49 PM

You can always do your preliminary research by visiting Find A Grave, but I have already told you that.

I recently found the death certificate for my wife's paternal grandfather, which gave us the correct cemetery and everything ... cause of death, age in years-months-days, parents, it even listed Aunt Mame as the certifier which told us we got the right person ...
Now we just have to get to Chicago to visit the cemetery.

We got that from the Cook County, IL archives. They are much better organized and service oriented that most other county records operations.

New York state has a central records place that will provide you with geneological informtion (births,deaths,marriages) ... but you have to pay up-front and they don't promise a result for a month or two.

Locally I have to visit either County Clerks offices or county libraries to find those sorts of records.

You might look around the areas where your people are from to see what you can find. Look for old census records too. Thats how I was able to track down my GreatGrandmother's Mother.

Died in childbirth was a big thing, as was cholera, flu, and other diseases we think trivial.

Posted by: The Thomas at March 23, 2011 04:58 PM

The Juju Woman is a Daughter of the Mayflower, and I'm a Son of the Revolution. Anyway, after my father died I was going through his "stuff" and found a letter dated the day he was born, from an aunt. It documented his family line from the early 1600's. Very cool, so I started the tree diagram and it's one heck of a tall tree.

Anyway, the Juju Woman and I were in D.C. doing the museums, we were in the American History Museum...I was about 30 feet away from her when I heard her scream. I bolted to her as fast as I could, I thought she was being robbed or mugged.

Nope, she was looking at a three-cornered hat worm by her great great great great great? Grandfather while serving with the Connecticut Militia during the Revolutionary War. Her family did not know it was there. Her father was named after him. That was downtown cool.

Posted by: Yabu at March 24, 2011 06:20 AM

Oh what an adventure you are going to have! My nephew got us started on the family tree several years ago. Next thing we knew - we had our lineage mapped out all the way back to 1400 England! And, thanks to some awesome people in 4 different parts of the US and some folks in England - we also had tax documents, wills, pictures of land our family owned, and more!

All of that led to a family reunion numbering 95 people!! During which time we also found out some interesting facts:

1. My 4 X great grandmother & sons were left penniless after she was widowed and the judge billed her for his services (for the full value of her property $500 at that time). Judge was the father-in-law to a guy named Custer . . .

2. Turns out the Dodge family has always had farming and ranching in our blood - from the 1400's on

3. Turns out that our Dodge family branch and the other 3 branches had the most family members and the most generations serve in the American Revolution . . .and service to our country continues

4. And we have the mustering out papers for one particular Dodge family member in which is contained the documentation of this story: He was guarding a particular stretch of road at night - group came along - asked for password, no reply, asked for password, no reply, readied to shoot. Someone spoke and stopped him. Next thing he knows a group of 5 horsemen go by - with a certain General Washington in the lead!!!

Enjoy the adventure of discovering your family history. We certainly did!

Posted by: Nina at March 24, 2011 07:57 AM

In this case, Bou, they are just better conversationalist.

Posted by: Tink at March 24, 2011 05:12 PM

Do you have access to There is so much information out there that you can tap into as people post their genealogy online. Pictures, military records, etc.

I'll send you a private email.

Posted by: Jerry in Oklahoma at March 25, 2011 08:18 AM

... digging up stuff here as well in regards to Colonial South Carolina...... crazy stuff!..... good luck with the relatives!....

Posted by: Eric at March 27, 2011 07:40 AM