August 07, 2011

The Things to Worry About

My husband and I had an intense discussion this past week about the debt ceiling and all that other stuff swirling around it and how... I'm tuning it out. I don't watch it. I don't read it. I hate to say I don't care... but I don't.

As I said to him testily, I have no control over it. I can't change it. I'm not going to devote my time to stressing over it. I have enough in my life that carries me to the edge.

However, the loss of our men in Afghanistan a few days ago, that does bother me. I am dwelling on it. I have lost sleep over it.

The question may be why, but it is a connection, something brings it home.

One of my friend's sons is just finishing up his SEAL training. He has completed BUDS and is in his last part... if you will. When/if, he is able to complete this last part, he'll move on... to the next phase. He'll be a SEAL. He's actually probably beyond washing out. If he doesn't do well this phase, he'll roll over until he does. And SEALS never finish training, so I guess the next phase is to train with the regular SEALS, be assigned a group or whatever.

Someone asked her how she has gotten through all this and she has said, "Prayer".

And she's not saying it flippantly. She is a good strong Catholic woman, and she has spent more than her share of time, on her knees, at Church... praying. She prays in her car, she prays before she sleeps, she takes Prayer Warrior to a SEAL type level if you will.

It is her stronghold, what keeps her sane. Since he's still training, she always knows where he is and is able to communicate during most weeks. She knows a time is coming where she won't know where he is, who he's with, what he's doing... no communication.

It is coming.

There are some things she cannot wrap her mind around. It is a mother thing. It is one thing for him to train, it another for him to be in imminent danger. It is one thing for him to be in training to be a SEAL, it is another for him to actually...

... be one.

I know her son knew some of the men on that flight. And I know she is sick over it because her son is sick over it. And she is sick over it... because one day he'll be on those flights.

And as another mother, I hurt for them both.

I hurt as an American and as a mother.

Lex has a great post written about our Navy SEALS. From him I took a link in how you can help the families. Go read his post. It's worth it.

Posted by Boudicca at August 7, 2011 04:21 PM
Comments

I prayed for the soldiers as well. It is so hard because I have friends as well with kids as soldiers. And it doesn't seem to matter which branch, they all make me worried when anything happens.

Posted by: vwbug at August 8, 2011 06:19 AM

Nah, doesn't matter the branch. 22 at once though... good Lord.

Posted by: Bou at August 8, 2011 06:42 PM

It was more than 22, that was the SEALS. There were also forward air controllers, the aircrew and a war dog.

Thirty+ of our best. Kipling had something to say about the cost of losing one young officer in that part of the world. The only difference is today it's an RPG instead of a musket.

Posted by: Peter at August 8, 2011 09:55 PM

The entire thing is sickening. It really is.

Posted by: Bou at August 9, 2011 06:34 AM

It has been horrendous all the way around. It's taken me a while to be able to even look at stories related to any of it. I read Lex's post and cried all the way through it. Sadly the aircrew have largely been forgotten in most of the media because of the utter tragedy of the loss of the SEAL team.

So in honor of the Chinook crew, I will point people to a blog post written back in 2005 by the late Brian Delaplane of Firepower Forward. He was an unparalleled wordsmith. This is his view of a Chinook incident of that time.

He had already moved back to Bagram, but part of his unit was still in harm's way. RPG's were fired onto the FOB, the Chinook was hit by shrapnel, 2 on the ground were killed in the explosion while unloading supplies. If you haven't read it I can say it perfectly presents what air crew families live with daily while their loved ones are deployed. The rest of the time we simply pray for no accidents.

http://bdelapla.typepad.com/firepowerforward/2005/06/in_the_blink_of.html

Posted by: Teresa at August 10, 2011 02:52 PM

Teresa, People need to be aware. I remember that incident VIVIDLY.

I think what has been difficult for my to wrap my mind around is the large number coming from ONE group. If you lost 22 men in one squadron, like they did in WWII, it's absolutely mind boggling what it does to that ONE group. And we're not used to those numbers.

We shouldn't be used to ANY numbers. It's ALL horrific.

I do wonder how many men are left in DEVGRU.

Posted by: Bou at August 10, 2011 04:35 PM