September 11, 2011

10 Years

Bones was two years old. He was in pre-school. He does not remember it.

Mr. T was four years old. I had taken him out of pre-school so we could have a "Mommy and Mr. T" day... he'd not have to share me with anyone. He remembers exactly where we were and what he was eating for breakfast. It is all very clear in his head.

Ringo was in first grade. He remembers it vividly. I picked him up early from school.

None of my boys remember life before 9/11. They don't remember what it was like to greet someone at the gate at an airport. They don't remember when you didn't have to take off your shoes. They don't remember when air travel wasn't a pain in the neck.

They don't remember... when we were not at war. We have been at war, had Troops in the Middle East... as far back as their memories carry them.

They don't know the sadness, the fright, the horror. We worried where the world was going. We understood it was a turning point. We were aghast at what was to be for our children. We wondered... who was next?

I find myself appalled that people think we should forgive. There appears to be so much wrong with that. I am not capable of remembering and forgiving. To remember is to remember the horror of all of it.

I read the comics every Sunday morning. It is what I've done since I was a child. I get breakfast, read the Sunday comics, then start at the front of the paper and work back.

This morning I decided to go through and see what the various writers had depicted. Most had a bit on it. Some did not, which I did expect and did not offend. But one in particular said, "Always forgive, Always remember". I sat there thinking, "Really? Always forgive? Why should we forgive murderers?"

It is not in my heart to do so. I am saddened still for the families that lost loved ones. I am sorry for the deep change that had to occur in our Country. I am saddened that some people still don't realize, we are in perpetual danger.

I don't worry that we have forgiven, but more that we have forgotten. Afterall... history repeats itself. Today, I counted three American flags being flown in my neighborhood as I was leaving.


Is that a sign that we have forgotten? Or a sign... we no longer care?

Posted by Boudicca at September 11, 2011 07:15 PM

..... we will never, ever forget......... not ever.....

Posted by: Eric at September 11, 2011 09:11 PM

I've heard it said, the further away we get from 9/11, the closer we get to 9/10.

But as for me and mine, we won't forget. Nor forgive. You. Can't. Forgive. Evil.

Posted by: Mrs. Who at September 11, 2011 09:27 PM

I forgave them. I won't forget what they did. I still remember exactly where I was when someone came into our classroom and we turned on the TV. I can forgive them because I know they will face the consequences of their actions. If not in this life, then when they appear before God. But I won't forget, because I want to make damned sure it doesn't happen again.

Posted by: Andrew Phule at September 12, 2011 01:05 AM

I have not forgotten. I just couldn't find the words yesterday to write a post worth posting on it. You always know what to say. Great job.

Posted by: vwbug at September 12, 2011 04:49 AM

If you don't forgive, their evil continues to infect our lives. Don't give them that power.
Instead, forgive them for thinking that what they did could destroy a nation.
And remember that those who involuntarily gave their lives that day serve as our angel guides to peace. Because if we don't work toward peace, we are destined to repeat history.

Posted by: PeggyK at September 12, 2011 06:16 AM

We can forgive without forgetting. A slight, a slap.. even something more serious.

9/11 is not forgivable. Not ever.

Posted by: pam at September 12, 2011 08:09 AM

Oh yes, we will never forget, and never forgive. Thank you Bou for such an eloquent post.

Posted by: Mary at September 12, 2011 08:15 PM

This is kind of related: After 9/11, at least where I live, there were many many American flags flying. Before 9/11 I would tell people who were looking for my house to look for the flag in front, as I was the only one on my street flying it. After 9/11, just about everyone had one. Now, they're all gone. Sad.

Posted by: Yabu at September 13, 2011 06:07 AM

I am going to be in disagreement with some of your readers. You have to forget their atrocities when you forgive them. You CANNOT have one without the other. As for me, may they burn in hell.

Posted by: pfb at September 14, 2011 10:52 AM