October 13, 2011

Birds

Bones struggles to sleep every night. This has always been a problem and I think it has something to do with the ADHD. He struggles to turn his brain off.

Over time, we've eliminated all video game playing after 7:00, no sugar after 8 (in particular chocolate ice cream), and we try to stay away from TV as well after 8.

For awhile he was drinking chamomile tea and although I pushed it, I thought it was more of a psychogical thing for him. I never expected it to work, but thought if I convinced him it might... any edge would be good.

He thinks it helps.

The latest was his need for a 'sound machine'.

"Mom," said he, "I think if I heard the ocean or some other soothing white noise, it might help. Like, listening to the rain..."

I'm willing to try anything at this point, even if he's convinced HIMSELF that it works, I'm game.

So this weekend, he and his Dad went out and bought him a machine that had something like 12 sounds. The first night, he spend playing with them, figuring out what he liked and what he didn't.

Tonight is night two of... bird chirping. I am sitting in my dining room and it sounds like birds are chirping in his bedroom.

How in the hell he finds that soothing, I'll never know. But that's the sound of the night.

Birds. Thankfully he negated the freight train...

Posted by Boudicca at October 13, 2011 09:58 PM
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The first thing to come to mind for me was this: http://youtu.be/IVRA4hxabRQ

Posted by: K-Nine at October 13, 2011 10:10 PM

OK, that's dang funny.

I keep thinking, who is going to marry this boy? He's so dang quirky. He has to sleep up against you, he wants to listen to birds, he talks in his sleep.

And let me tell you, these birds are LOUD. I don't know why he thinks this is soothing. I'm waiting for Mr. T to finally protest and say, "I'm DONE already. NO MORE birds. I can't sleep!" So far his brothers are being tolerant. So far...

Posted by: Bou at October 13, 2011 10:14 PM

I have Delayed Sleep Phase Syndrome: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Delayed_sleep_phase_syndrome

Nothing works for me either, usually. I've found that classical music played at just barely audible helps to allow me to sleep.

I also have a fan going on a low setting, it helps to modulate my body heat (I typically run hot) so I don't wake up sweating. I've also found that it's easier to fall asleep if the room temp. is lower than 70.

I've also cut anything with caffeine from my diet.

However, the thing that works best of all, and this may work for Bones, is to read a good book. It does keep me awake at times, but I usually fall asleep reading it, and even when it keeps me up, it has the benefit of relaxing me so I'm not too tired to get up in the morning.

Don't know if it'll help Bones, but at least it'll give ya some other stuff to try.

Posted by: Andrew Phule at October 13, 2011 11:07 PM

For my fake ocean sound I go to simplynoise.com, click on the brown button then the oscillating button.

Hope the sound machine helps Bones.

Posted by: cin at October 14, 2011 01:16 AM

Welcome to my world. The youngest listens to birds, the oldest to crickets. It's an ... interesting ... mix of sounds. I have some stuff that might help, call me.

Posted by: vwbug at October 14, 2011 04:42 AM

Sounds much like one of my best friend's brain.

He is an analytical accountant, age 55. When he needs to concentrate on something, he puts on a pair of studio headphones and listens to '70s hard rock and blues loud enough to be heard in the next office. He thinks it gives his right brain something to do while his left brain works the numbers.

When I have a hard time drifting off, I'll listen to Brian Eno's album Neroli. $0.99 @ Amazon.

Posted by: Versatek6 at October 14, 2011 01:39 PM

The train is good -- the clickety-clack over the tracks. Ocean is good. Rain is great with the thunder mixed in, although he may have to get up to use the bathroom.

Posted by: Toluca Nole at October 14, 2011 02:32 PM

As Andrew said, a fan is good. I always have one going, even if it's not pointed at me.

Posted by: Toluca Nole at October 14, 2011 02:34 PM

I've always had trouble falling asleep. It's easier during a rainstorm - maybe I should try a white noise machine. Anyway, I found that blackout curtains made a huge difference in my ability to fall asleep, especially when I am overtired. Maybe that would help Bones too? You can always do temporary ones from aluminum foil to try.

Posted by: Amity at October 14, 2011 02:50 PM

He always has a fan going and for the longest time he had a little fan blowing. It recently broke and I realize, he liked the noise.

But as I type this, the birds are still chirping, this being 40 minutes as he went to bed late tonight.

CHIRPING.

Does he think he's sleeping in a forest? We just need them to break out in song and I'll feel like I'm at that Bird Tiki thing at Disney...

I mean CHIRPING.

Posted by: Bou at October 14, 2011 10:41 PM

I grew up as a railroad kid, my dad was first a brakeman, then promoted to conductor. My mom was a clerk. We live a short walk from the trainyard. I grew up with the sound of the trains. A big strike happened in my early teenaged years and at exactly midnight all the noise just stopped. Now this wasn't a small station, this was the yard where the transcontinental freights formed.

When the sounds stopped, I woke up in alarm, wondering what happened. It took me a few minutes to figure it out. Later in life I had to relearn how to sleep away from the trains when I went away to Boot Camp.

Of course, today the Obama Administration is trying to quiet the sound of commerce all across America but that's a different story.

So, yes, Bones COULD learned to sleep with the sound of freight trains.

Posted by: Peter at October 15, 2011 02:36 AM

I wonder if this would help him.

http://warretreat.org/2011/09/30/start-with-a-minute-one-moment-meditation-makes-it-easy/

Only because it's such a short period of time. Might be worth a try.

Posted by: Teresa at October 15, 2011 06:16 PM

I tell stories to myself - full cast of charecters. Only way I know to turn reality off, so I can sleep.

Posted by: Web at October 17, 2011 07:51 AM

I LOVE my noise machine. I can not sleep if it's quite, I have to have some background noise.

We use the summer night setting, crickets, frogs, etc. There is also a rain setting and bubbling brook setting and I loved those except I figured out the pattern and now I can't sleep to those because I keep hearing the pattern and it drives me crazy.

We also use a fan.

When I really can't sleep I use Web's method also, I tell myself a made up story (I am usually the hero) and it turns my brain off enough to sleep.

And actually counting sheep does work, it makes you concentrate on something so your brain turns off.

Posted by: Quality Weenie at October 18, 2011 11:35 AM