November 16, 2011

On for the next Twenty...

Twenty years.

I've been married twenty years.

I've been married ALMOST half my life.

I've been MARRIED twenty years.

I've been married TWENTY years.


Where did it go? How did it pass so quickly? How did we go from single, planning our future to being... midway through? Thinking about having kids, wondering how many, thinking two, expecting maybe a boy and a girl, to having three boys, two teenage and one who will be in seven months.

Living in our little house, our first house, very cozy and quaint, with so little backyard that our lawn mower used to break because it was never on for more than five minutes at a time. Literally. We couldn't get it broken in. It took two passes to cut the lawn. Some of our neighbors just pulled up the grass and put in stone. My Mom and Dad used to say that our neighborhood was for the Newly Wed or Nearly Dead.

I was a new engineer at a Fortune 50 company, my husband had been in practice for four years. I was 26. He was 31.

At dinner tonight I started rattling off all the people who were with us at our wedding, but no longer alive. His Mom and Dad, his Aunt Maria (who looked like a cross between a troll and Dr. Ruth), both my grandmothers, my uncle, Joe's wife... and then of course the babies who weren't born.

I said to him, "And remember? Craig had just come back from the War. (He was a POW.) He was so thin... 120 pounds?" It's been 20 years since he was shot down. That is odd too. I remember being almost as excited he was alive and with us, as I was that we were getting married.

Now, I'm back with another engineering firm, working as a subcontractor to the same Fortune 50 company, up to my eyeballs on the back end of a very very fast aircraft. My husband moved his practice and has become very well known in his profession, lecturing nationally with prospects of going international. He can do that now that the children are older. Our children are six years from all being in college. We're looking at additional cars, getting licenses, talking college, and thinking about what college majors can lend itself to a good job. "Mom, should I become a doctor or an engineer?" "Mom, I'm debating between finance and medicine..." "Mom, I think I'm going to go into sales... Do you think I could be a chef?" (We told Bones he should be the SINGING chef.)

I don't blog much on my husband or us. It's a respect issue. He didn't ask to be in this world of blogging, so other than my poking fun at me or telling a funny story that he happens to be involved with, I don't blog much on him. As you know, I call him Hunhead. That is our pet name for each other actually... started 20 years ago.

So... here is us, our engagement picture.

I cannot believe... how young we were. Holy crap.

20 years agoII.jpg

Posted by Boudicca at November 16, 2011 08:53 PM

And from the picture, both of you have gotten better with age.

In my case, I no longer look like I'm anorexic ... I'm twice the man I was then.

Posted by: The Thomas at November 16, 2011 09:01 PM

And may you have 20 more just as happy.

Posted by: Rave at November 16, 2011 09:09 PM

Well, happy annivoisary, kids. Youse two look like you're made for one another. Here's to the next 20, and the 20 after that, and so on.

Posted by: Erica at November 16, 2011 09:14 PM

Congrats on all the years. Are you sure the picture isn't of a couple movie stars from the Forties, though? You both look vaguely familiar.


Posted by: Heresolong at November 16, 2011 09:33 PM

Congratulations...and that's a marvelous picture. No wonder y'all have great-looking kids!

Posted by: Mrs. Who at November 16, 2011 09:50 PM

You know what's funny? I put the picture up and thought, "We look like we came out of the 40s..." Heh.

When we were young, many thought my husband looked like Al Pacino. Now, they say George Clooney. I told him I didn't think so. I am not particularly a GC fan. Then again, I was never into men who were not stable or appeared to be commitment phobes. What the press has about GC probably created why I don't think he's particularly good looking. Anyway, people tell him all the time he looks like GC now. It's the eyes.

His waist is ONE INCH bigger than when we got married. I remember when it grew an inch, I was so happy. I could finally find pants that fit. It's tough to find a 29 inch waist.

Posted by: Bou at November 16, 2011 09:54 PM

Honestly, you haven't changed a bit!!! Great picture! Congratulations!!! From all the D's

Posted by: jd at November 16, 2011 10:00 PM

Congratulations to you two!

Five more years and you can silver plate those numbers. *grin* A few weeks ago we saw the calendar flip to our thirtieth.

Posted by: cin at November 16, 2011 10:12 PM

I love that pic - you are a beautiful couple and I'm guessing you have both gotten better with age because to me you look darn near the same as in that picture!!! Good lord girl don't you age??? LOL.

My husband is taller, but like your husband he has also only gained 1 inch around the waist (this was a good thing as he was all gangly bones when I met him - although very cute)

May you have many many happy years ahead of you!

PS I am not a GC fan either never have been.

Posted by: Teresa at November 16, 2011 11:05 PM

Happy Anniversary. Wow. Neither of you has really changed... the hair yes, the rest. Nope. Amazing. Ok, wait... you became wiser and funnier. Must come with having children and growing old. ;-)

Posted by: vwbug at November 17, 2011 05:53 AM

Happy Anniversary! You are a beautiful couple.

Posted by: pam at November 17, 2011 08:12 AM

Congratulations! You are such a beautiful couple.

Posted by: Jody at November 17, 2011 08:28 AM

Congratulations! and really? You have not changed. ;)

Posted by: Oddybobo at November 17, 2011 09:35 AM

happy anniversary!

on the 29 inch waist... my hubby is a 28 inch waist AND he's 5'11". I feel your pain. He cannot gain weight.

Posted by: wRitErsbLock at November 17, 2011 09:52 AM

Congratulations. It's SO nice to read a GOOD story about marriage these days.

Posted by: George P at November 17, 2011 11:10 AM

Gorgeous then, gorgeous now.

Happy Anniversary...and many more!

Posted by: Jean at November 17, 2011 06:11 PM

Congrats! Arrives fast. Hope I am still reading at 30!

Posted by: Jilly at November 17, 2011 07:41 PM

Congrats on your twenty years. Last Monday was thirteen for my Yes Dear and I, twenty if you count the years we were together before marriage.

Posted by: diamond dave at November 17, 2011 08:12 PM

I'm late to the party, but Happy Anniversary to youse guys.

Posted by: Jim - PRS at November 18, 2011 12:51 AM

In my opinion you should stop doing this! It is not right

Posted by: presentation help at November 18, 2011 02:57 AM

Happy Anniversary! What a great picture of you two!

Posted by: Nina at November 18, 2011 08:23 AM

Happy Anniversary! :D

I always thought your boys looked like you, but now that there is a picture of your husband ... I think they definitely look like him! Either way, they got good genes. :) !

Posted by: PeggyU at November 18, 2011 11:20 PM

Happy anniversary! In truth though it goes fast doesn't it.

Posted by: Shaz at November 20, 2011 08:37 PM