June 09, 2012

50 Years Ago Today...

... my parents were married.

However, if you ask my Dad how long they've been married, he'll look at me and say, "How old are you?" and then he'll subtract a year. It's his big joke. In reality, I was born at the end of their 3rd year of marriage. Since they waited two full years to start having children, there was wondering amongst Dad's family if they'd actually ever really HAVE children. I think you were supposed to get married and then just immediately have kids.

My parents were ahead of their time...

It is hard to believe it has been 50 years. I remember when my grandparents were married 50 years. They were old as crap.

My parents aren't old at all. And so suddenly it seems really weird to say '50 Years' because EVERYONE thinks that's a really long crazy time, but my parents are so young... so how does one come to terms with that mentally?

It's weird.

I don't post pictures of my folks. But I do have one from their very first date... and I think this would be 53 years ago. It was the summer of 1959. They were married in 1962.


So this is the gig on how it happened; I don't think I've chronicled it before and I may get part of it wrong.

My Dad had just finished his Plebe year at Annapolis. He and his friend were on their summer cruise in the Great Lakes area. My Mom had just graduated from high school and was about to start college at their local college, Toledo University. She was still living at home with my grandparents.

When my Dad and his friend were around town, Dad's friend met a girl that he wanted to go out with. The girl surely wasn't going to go out with some strange boy, but told the Midshipman, she'd go out if he could find a date for her friend. They would double date.

So Dad's friend had my Dad go and the girl called my Mom.

As the story goes, as the two young men came to my grandmother's door to get my Mom, my grandmother said to my Mom that she hoped her date was the short one, because he was really cute.

And it was.

They went out a couple times when he was in town and then he finished his cruise, going back to the Naval Academy and Mom started college. They wrote letters back and forth... but probably not many and not for long.

Then two years later, right before the summer of his Senior year, she received a letter from my Dad, asking her to come for June week and to go to the Ring Dance with him. My grandparents took my Mom to Annapolis and the story goes, my Mom was afraid that she wouldn't remember what my Dad looked like, but my grandmother assured her that SHE remembered.

My Mom spent the week there, evidently in a dorm environment with other girls, while she went to the festivities with my Dad.

And then in October, I guess, she got a letter asking her to come to Philadelphia to the Army Navy Game. My Mom took the train and met him. They went to the game and then to dinner... and my Dad asked her to marry him.

So. Let's think about that.

I think there was June week and a couple dates. It is probably the most impulsive thing my Dad ever has done. I asked my Mom why she said yes. I think she said she was just so surprised. It surely wasn't because she didn't have any suitors. She had plenty.

And if you ask Dad what he would have done if she'd said no, his answer is, "Buy a Corvette..."

But she didn't say no, and a wedding was planned, she flew down to Alabama at Christmas to meet my paternal grandparents, then there was my Dad's graduation from Annapolis and then they got married in Toledo.

So. How many times had they physically seen each other? How much time had they really spent with each other? Not so much.

And here it is 50 years later. They grew together.

Now... I cannot imagine them apart.

I'm going to break a major rule here and post a picture of my folks. Hell, they're off on the beach honeymooning. They aren't here for me to ask for permission, so I'm not going to. I have the keys, you know...

This was taken 5 years ago at Bones 1st Holy Communion.


And for the record, no, my Mom doesn't dye her hair. And yes, five years later, it's still that dark. Crazy. Mo and I are greyer than she is. Dad's beard is trimmed differently now, more of a Sean Connery look. It looks very classic and distinguished.

So Happy 50th Anniversary to my Mom and Dad. I cannot put into words, the depth of my love for you. Thank you for everything you've done for us... so much laughter, so many wonderful memories. I had the best childhood anyone could ask for. There was never any doubt in my mind I was loved, that we were loved,and that you loved each other.

Happy Anniversary...

Posted by Boudicca at June 9, 2012 10:19 PM

Happy anniversary to them! They look fabulous (and you look a lot like your beautiful Mama!)

Posted by: Mrs. Who at June 9, 2012 11:40 PM

Wow! Just beautiful. Congrats to your parents and family!

Posted by: DogsDontPurr at June 9, 2012 11:48 PM

How wonderful! Happy Anniversary!! :D

Posted by: pam at June 10, 2012 06:08 AM

Happiest of anniversaries to your folks. They look GREAT! It runs in the genes.

Posted by: vwbug at June 10, 2012 06:28 AM

great love story!
and... you look so much like your mom

Posted by: wRitErsbLock at June 10, 2012 08:22 AM

Bawlin' my eyes out here!! A beautiful tribute to their love!

Congratulations to your parents!! Here's to 50 more!!

Posted by: PeggyK at June 10, 2012 08:53 AM

it's so funny, but we joke how when my grandparents hit 50 years, it seemed like so dang long and they were so frickin' old!

When my parents celebrated their 20th, I had just graduated from HS. It's kind of funny how I relate my life to their marriage now.

They're just amazing awesome people.

Posted by: Bou at June 10, 2012 08:55 AM

Its been 2 years since my folk's 60th anniversary and my brother just turned 60 this year. My how time flies.

And, no my folks don't look that much older than yours. My Mom started showing gray just after their 50th anniversary.

Posted by: The Thomas at June 10, 2012 12:45 PM

Happy Anniversary! You do have great parents! And you and Mo look so much like your mom in that first picture.

And, today is my dad's 50th birthday....which I'm still trying to grasp.

Posted by: Sissy at June 10, 2012 12:56 PM

What a loving, touching tribute to your parents, obviously some very fine people. Mazel tov to them and many many more anniversaries as well.

Posted by: Erica at June 10, 2012 02:03 PM

In case anyone is interested, Boudicca is 51. She always tries to hide the truth. */;-)

Posted by: Angus of Jura at June 10, 2012 07:24 PM

Nice try, Dad...

Posted by: Bou at June 10, 2012 07:52 PM

I was 1 year old when they met. LOL. A very very happy anniversary to them! May they have many many more. What a lovely life indeed.

Posted by: Teresa at June 10, 2012 08:26 PM

Happy Anniversary! What a wonderful story, and I can't believe how much you and your sister look like your lovely mom!

Posted by: caltechgirl at June 10, 2012 09:19 PM

Happy Anniversary to Angus of "insert something here" and his better half....!!! lol

Congrats to your family..!!

Posted by: P'cola Titan at June 10, 2012 09:56 PM

And good on TGOO, because being a friend's wing man is how I met my wife of 22 years..!!

Posted by: P'cola Titan at June 10, 2012 09:58 PM

He's still the cute one! Rowrrr! And she's still a looker, too.

Congrats, all 'round, to a beautiful family.

Posted by: Joan of Argghh! at June 11, 2012 06:39 AM

Happy Anniversary

Bou you look just like your mom and your dad could star in an Indiana Jones movie, he looks like a archeologist.

Posted by: Quality Weenie at June 11, 2012 11:32 AM

O..M..G.. Sissy could be our grand daughter!?!

If all God's children were loved as much as ours what a wonderful world this would be. And truthfully ...they're really easy to love.

Thanks everyone for the comments.

Posted by: mom at June 11, 2012 10:22 PM

Mom- Funny you should say that. After Sissy's comment, I got a txt from PFB saying, "HOW OLD IS SHE?!" Since... well... I'm just three years younger than her frickin' Dad. Sissy could be my daughter. Crazy.

Posted by: Bou at June 11, 2012 10:24 PM

A beautiful love story, great pictures, and the best comments from your readers! Congratulations to your wonderful parents!

Posted by: Mary at June 13, 2012 07:48 PM

Ok, that picture of their first date looks like you and Scott on a blanket. Seriously.
congratulations to two of my very most favorite people ever. I love them so.

Posted by: Pfb at June 13, 2012 07:51 PM