August 22, 2013

Odd Conversations from the Halls of Public High Schools

Bones and I were in the grocery store yesterday when the following conversation occurred, to the best of my recollection:

Bones: There is a kid in my PE class that has a 4 year old and a 3 year old.

Me: How old is he? You have a senior in your class?

Bones: No... he's like a year older than me. He's just turning 16. He's a sophomore.

Me *having stopped and finding myself near speechless*: I'm sorry. I think I heard you start this conversation that this young man has a FOUR year old AND a THREE year old...

Bones: Yeah, he's about to get his license and is excited so he can drive out to see his kids anytime he wants.

Me: Bones.

Bones: I know. Mom. He was... 12 when he had sex. That was four years ago. Actually, he was probably 11. Mom... who has sex when they're 11?

Me: I don't know... I don't know what to say.

Today's conversation at dinner got weirder. My husband was filled in.

Bones: Yeah, well, he loves those kids. He talks about them all the time. But they live with their Mom. She's a Senior at BG high school.

Me: She's 18?

Bones: Yeah, she's 18. But when she got pregnant, she was in 8th grade. He said THAT was really tough. At least in the high school, they have a pre-school like daycare. You can drop your kids off and still go to class. But... they don't have that in middle school.

He kept eating, adding to the conversation, and the other three of us had pretty much put our forks down and were staring at him, unable to figure out what to add to the conversation.

Finally I looked at T, who goes to a private Catholic HS, and I said flatly, "Hunh. I don't think we hear stories like this out of your high school..."

Posted by Boudicca at August 22, 2013 10:02 PM

Sad, sad, sad. Children having children. I trust that you raised your boys to understand that there is something seriously wrong with such a state of affairs.

Posted by: diamond dave at August 23, 2013 09:59 AM

Yet they aren't even taught how to use a checkbook and pay for college while still in high school. Oy...the kids these days!

Why, back in my day, we had to walk uphill in the snow both ways and.... (heh!)

Posted by: DogsDontPurr at August 23, 2013 05:31 PM

So where were these children's parents AFTER they had the first kid???? WTF????

Posted by: Mrs. Who at August 24, 2013 09:02 PM

Mrs. Who. That area of Palm Beach County is known for children having children. The fact he goes to school with Bones is because he is bussed in... due to the fact it's an Arts school. Otherwise, Bones would never have met the young man.

The crazy thing is... there is a parent somewhere, paying serious attention to the boy at least because he IS in the art school. You don't get into the art school unless someone somewhere noticed something and put some time and effort, in particular because... the kid dances.

Posted by: Bou at August 25, 2013 09:19 AM

Wow. Just Wow. A KID has TWO kids??!!! Agree with Mrs. Who - where in the H*** are the parents???!!!

And I'd be willing to bet that kid got into art school because someone else OTHER than his parents noticed his talent and are trying to help him break the cycle.

Posted by: Nina at August 25, 2013 09:47 AM

That is seriously messed up.

Maybe a grandparent helped him get into the school because sounds like the parents checked out long ago...

Of course, that's just an assumption and the truth could be very different.

Posted by: pam at August 26, 2013 06:21 AM