November 01, 2013

Of Ex's and Colored Toilet Seats

Bones broke up with his girlfriend today. He's fine with it... reflective. She got really drunk this weekend and then kinda sorta made out with a boy from a party.

He was hurt and horrified and just told her he was done.

And it was the right thing to do, on many fronts. He was so... philosophical. "Mom, if she is getting that trashed at parties at 14, what's she going to be doing at 18? And it's EVERY weekend. EVERY Single Weekend. There is something wrong. I don't think I need to be part of that."

Evidently he told her up front before they go together, "Be honest with me. If you're one of these people that gets drunk or does drugs, let me know now, because I don't and I don't want to hang with someone who does..."

This was the discussion we had during dinner tonight when we all went out.

My husband and I hung back as T and Bones walked to the car and my husband said to me, "Hun, I think we might be doing something right..."

I pray.


Bones informed us at dinner tonight that he has noticed that every building at school has a different color toilet seat.

So for instance, the bathrooms in the gym have a white base with a black toilet seat.

The bathrooms in the building where he takes human geography have a white base and a green seat.

It is this way throughout the school... as if each building is color coded, yellow, red, black, green...

He has decided its so if a toilet seat gets stolen and is found, the janitors will know what building it goes into.

I think perhaps... the reason is not quite so... nefarious...

Posted by Boudicca at November 1, 2013 08:29 PM

Why would anyone want a used, public-facility toilet seat?

I mean if you're going to steal something ... :)

(Of course, my son asked me why anyone in his right mind would steal a calculator. He holds them in the same esteem as toilet seats.)

Posted by: PeggyU at November 2, 2013 12:47 AM

The color coded seats made me laugh!

I've shared your other stories about Bones and his girlfriend with my 14 yr old daughter. I'll share this one too.

I feel sorry for that young lady. She is, if she doesn't correct her course (with help from her family I hope!), going to have a very hard life.

Good for Bones to call her on her actions and then walk away.

You and your husband are indeed doing something right.

Posted by: Nina at November 2, 2013 09:56 AM

I bet that Bones' academic and math problems are becoming small beans to you and your husband now that you realize that the kid's moral compass is pointing firmly in the right direction...

Posted by: diamond dave at November 2, 2013 04:39 PM

Peggy- You know... so much was wrong with his theory. Your point... is but just one.

Nina- Your daughter probably has a Bones in her class. Heh!

Dave- He still has to get a high school diploma! The math scares me on that alone!

Posted by: Bou at November 2, 2013 05:16 PM

You guys have the most awesome boys. I love that Bones was upfront with her then walked away from a "relationship", such as it is at that age, when she showed herself to be unreliable. I'm pretty sure he already knew that was coming and so he wasn't caught unaware.

I feel sorry for the girl though - no good can come of her current course. *sigh* We don't know why she does it, but sending some prayers that she can get her head on straight before something really bad happens.

Posted by: Teresa at November 4, 2013 03:54 PM

Bou - its a small high school (about 270 kids) and there are at least TWO Bones there! ;-)

Posted by: Nina at November 5, 2013 07:52 AM