November 28, 2013

Thanksgiving 2013

We are here in Pensacola and it's been pretty chilly. My boys have spent most of their time outside playing badminton. Bones found a set in my folks' garage and I bought more birdies for it... and they've literally spent hours hitting back and forth while the girls ran around in the backyard.

My Mom cooked an amazing meal. We cook our turkeys now in butter in white wine and they always come out moist. I'm at the point where I don't overeat. I eat just enough and don't walk away feeling ill.

There are some big changes coming in the next 18 months. I'm cherishing all I can with what we have RIGHT NOW because things can change on a dime and... life is about change.

That truly is the only constant.

The boys are loving playing with their cousins. So much laughter.

There has been much discussion about the shopping that is now on Thanksgiving. I've read both sides... "If cops, ERs, and blah blah blah have to work..." and the "I can't believe corporate greed is going to make these people work on Thanksgiving..."

And this is what it boils down to for me.

A deep sadness.

Christmas has become more and more commercialized. Everyone cries about it, everyone is incensed by it, but it is all talk. Nobody truly cares.

There are groups of people that would always have to work on Thanksgiving. They are a part of our societal infrastructure. Medical personnel, military, power and water people, cab drivers, airline pilots, and on and on I can go with the groups I know that work.

Most I know don't love working on a holiday that is affiliated with family, but it is something that has always been.

But the stores are opening because... the people WANT it.

We scream and shout about hating how Christmas is becoming so commercial, yet we demand the stores be open, earlier and earlier... and earlier, until the only day left was just to open on the holiday that is supposed to be about family and giving thanks.

It was just a matter of time before Thanksgiving was overtaken. With Christmas decorations coming out before Halloween, and Christmas music coming before Thanksgiving, it was a matter of time before all that was sacred about the November holiday was lost.

Christmas has truly become about the shopping, the gifts, the good deals. It is no longer for the birth of our Savior. It is not a Celebration in the recognition of his birth.

Don't kid yourself.

If it was, people wouldn't be shopping today. The stores would keep their doors shut because it wouldn't be worthwhile for them to be open.

It wouldn't be cost effective.

But it is, so they are, and that is the true issue... and where the sadness comes in.

It is not the corporate greed.

It is the materialistic people who have lost their way.

I am thankful for my family. I am thankful I have a job when so many don't. I am thankful that my kids listen (mostly) and like me (mostly) and still want to hang with me.

I'm thankful that my eldest son calls from college to ask for advice and that he's solving his own problems. I'm thankful that my second son is so full of hope for his future. I'm thankful for Bones and all he brings to our lives.

I'm thankful that I am close to my siblings and that I married into a family where I like the siblings of my spouse.

I'm thankful for my sister's new family.

I'm thankful that I've been married 22 years as of a couple weeks ago, and we'd do it again.

I'm thankful for my parents and their good health and that after 48 years, I know for sure they are my best friends.

I have much to be thankful for... and I didn't even have to think.

Happy Thanksgiving. May you have much to be thankful for... and not have to think hard to remember it.

May you remember... the reason for the season.

And I will end with a picture of the 16th generation descendants of Mayflower passenger George Soule. I wonder what he would think of our world...


Posted by Boudicca at November 28, 2013 09:19 PM

I'm with you on the sadness about Thanksgiving. For the longest time my favorite holiday, and it's been overtaken by commercial greed and consumerism. And that is mostly the fault of the consumers, the same ones who bitch about having to work that day but show up in droves and assault each other over a TV set.

But you do have a beautiful family, and hope you all had a wonderful Thanksgiving.

Posted by: diamond dave at November 29, 2013 11:36 AM

Great Thanksgiving picture...

Posted by: vwbug at November 30, 2013 06:42 PM

I like Thanksgiving. It's my favorite holiday of the year. I have had to work in the holidays (back in the day) so I am thankful to have the days off now... of course this could all change at any time as the world changes, this means I appreciate what I have when I have it.

Whether or not the stores are open is a matter of indifference to me. I don't get the whole bargain shopping thing at all. But after reading about a number of people on facebook who have spent holidays alone and searched out open stores on days like Thanksgiving so they could be with some people for a little while instead of alone at home, maybe open stores aren't all bad. It's a sad fact that many people don't live near family or don't have a wonderful family they want to spend time with. For them I feel terrible. For them I can't quite make myself want all stores closed if it gives them some sort of connection to people on a "family" type of day and makes it less lonely.

Posted by: Teresa at December 3, 2013 11:19 AM

Thanksgiving as we know it is changing. For my family, it will stay the same. Around us, we will hear different. Eventually it'll be like any other day.

And that's the thing, people want it to be that way. If that's what they want... then it will be.

Eventually Christmas will be the same. You'll open your packages on Christmas morning and return them in the afternoon.

Posted by: Bou at December 4, 2013 11:30 PM