July 24, 2014

Starting on a Bad Note and Ending on a Happy Note

In case you have wondered, the accident report is out for Lex's death. I found it and nothing about it makes me feel better. It makes me feel more ill...


Let me know if the link doesn't work and I'll provide the path.


In Scouts, we have Scout Masters and Committee Chairmen, at least in T's Troop. Our Committee Chair finally left, all his boys having graduated from high school. I think he had the job for nine years.

He was awesome. He was kind. He had a good heart. He made us feel good. He made the boys feel good.

We have a replacement and I went to the meeting tonight. I ended up having to leave, because he was the biggest jerk, I was going to call him on it... in front of everyone.

And no good can come of that.

Our Treasurer called me and said, "I think he sucked the life out of me." I've already told the Scout Master he may have a mass exodus of volunteers. The key is, we're volunteers. If you don't treat your volunteers well, they leave.

I have one more year.


Meanwhile, our band director quit at T's high school. It was just in time as the boys were all sick of him and had gone to guidance (led by Mr. T) to get pulled out of band. This was in March. Fortunately, guidance, realizing what a trainwreck this would be for the new band director, showed their hand and said to the boys, "Don't leave. Just don't. We promise... change is coming."

And the boys kept it quiet until it was announced. I was proud of them. Instead of doing a happy dance or in your face act, they quietly went back to class, and never said a word, however smug they felt inside... and they were feeling quite smug!

I was going to step down as Band President. I'd had the job for three years and I was done. As a person, I liked the band director. As a teacher, he hated kids, he hated his job, and it was stressful for me. So I was going to be a background helper and groom someone to take it.

But when the band director put in his notice, I realized the new band director would need continuity, so I stayed.

I love this guy. He LOVES kids. He loves teaching. He is enthusiastic, BIG energy, and has wonderful ideas.

I'm just... really really excited. More excited about anything that has happened at their school and I like their school.

This will be a fun year.

Posted by Boudicca at July 24, 2014 09:04 PM

Reading the incident report, all I can think is "pilot error". Why was his landing gear up? If it was stuck surely he would have reported it. Disorientation after numerous attempts to land? Very weird story. I don't know your relationship to the pilot (I assume he was a friend) but what a horrible thing not to have any idea what might have happened.

How can you be a teacher and not like kids? I sometimes joke to my students that I am a teacher because of the great pay, that I don't actually like kids, and the ones that don't know me will look at me REALLY strangely, until they realize I am kidding. Maybe he just loves music so much and thought that being a teacher would be a cool thing, only to find out that students don't necessarily respond just because YOU love it. You have to just roll with it. I almost didn't figure that out. I was ready to quit about halfway through my fourth year and all of a sudden it just clicked. How long had he been a teacher?

Posted by: Heresolong at July 26, 2014 09:44 PM

I sent you a msg on the first questions.

As for the last, he'd been teaching 12 years. It just got worse and worse. He just... hated it. And it got to the point where the kids HATED him with a purple passion. It appeared to be worse with boys.

He found another route and he will be happier, as will the kids. I never posted on it all as it was going on, for the last few years. It was my own private hell...

Posted by: Bou at July 26, 2014 09:56 PM

I hope that if I ever start to hate teaching like that I will have the courage to walk away.

Posted by: Heresolong at July 26, 2014 10:20 PM

I'm worried about our troop. The new scouts that came over... not one parent has volunteered to help. NOT ONE.

Posted by: vwbug at July 28, 2014 08:18 AM

I did not read pilot error at all. I lived and worked in Fallon, NV and had just moved back to California when this happened. The very last statement in the report was discussed very early on. Fallon sits in a valley and the weather there can differ significantly from where the actual weather "guessers" are working. That's a part of the Navy's doing more with less mentality that's been a problem for years.

Bou thanks for posting that.

Posted by: Retired Navy CPO at July 30, 2014 09:11 AM